Need desperate help

Hi Experts,

Please help me with some suggestions,

Parents and myself are victims of 498A and DV act. This case was filed against us on the 8th of July 2011 which happens to be my bithday. i was married to this girl on 20th April 2009. This is an arrange marrage. The marriage was not a succesful one since the girl and thier family members were behind the property with matirialist moto. The gilr started picking up fights for petty issues and left matrimonal house often, atleast twice a month. There has been talks held by elders on several occasions and the girl was found guilty. the girl always accepts her mistakes in front of relatives/ elders and promises not to repeat this. However she always does exactly what her mother seeks from her. To cut the story short they could not change me for their requirement. some where around in June 2011 she left the house for his brothers marriage and filed 498A against me and my parents. which happened to be a 2nd saturday followed by sunday. i was not in town thus escaped arrest later after loads of struggle managed to get a bail. later filed a DV act seeking 25lakhs for ruiening her life and 20 thousand monthly for maintance. 

We approched Mediation for settlement, they wanted us to write 1 house in the name of Daughter and 1 on her mothers name only for them to with draw the current cases and they will not give divorce hence the mediation failed.

Mean while i had applied for Divorce and it was dissmissed stating the face of the complaint makes cruelity on the wife and the husband has not made any efforts to reunit after i presented the FIR copy for evidence respondant was declared exparty. I know there was a good opurtunity to get a exparty divorce un fortunatly the case was not formed well to get a exparty divorce.

I then appealed to High Court who in return ordered me to pay legal charges for the Wife to appear. i made the payments and the court dismissed my pettition. ordering the respondant shall with draw all the criminal case against the petitioner and join the husband the brothers and parents shall not interfere in the matrimoal life.

After this they came back to my home with some goundas and held talks where they seeked 50 lakhs of compansasion, we refused and when to the local police station, where an NC was registered and the inspector advised to with draw the case and come back.

After whcih they have been making all efforts to with draw this case. they have with drawn DV act and they are in the verge of with drawing 498A. however i have applied for a discharge petetion for my parents. which is under ordering status in lower court.

I do not want to take her back, she has ruiened my carier, life and reputation in society.

Experts, please advise what i can do now to get rid of her....... i am ready to pay one time settlement which reasonable and affordable to me.

Thanks in Advance.