Please help with your advise.
I am married for 4 years now and my husband has shown no interest in consummation of our marriage.
When we were engaged, he showed lot of interest in family making and also had insisted that I develop awareness of this and health related to family making.
He had also initiated love sometimes when we met in person and I have sensed he had strong feelings that time.
After marriage, I was told that we will start planning family only after an year of marriage and I agreed because he wanted more understanding to develop. I supported.
My in laws are very unsupportive from day one due to possessiveness and other attitude related problems. I was engulfed in solving their problems and easily it was 1.5 years by then. Soon they left us alone and moved out.
Again, then I wanted to start planning for family and spoke to him. My husband yet did not initiate and I dont think he intends to also. He only says give me time.
In spite of suggesting and trying so many options I don’t see any interest from himself, for sure I don’t seem he has medical issues (my observation).
Now I am frustrated and not able to make out what this really means. I have spoken to him already saying if he has no feelings we can separate making our loves better. Since we have not consummated our marriage yet and have had friendly living till now. I suspect there is something in his past which is hampering our married life.
My questions :
If we agree to separate by mutual consent how long will it take. We both stay together since 4 years but as I say, have not been in relationship at all.