I am Karr from Goa and I have been married for the last 6 years, I got married in 2009 and I have a two and half year old child. I met my husband when I was working abroad in gulf and we got married in the Catholic church and marriage is registered in Goa. Around 4 years back we returned back from gulf and upon return I settled in my matrimonial home along with my husband. The nightmare began from there, he began to spend more time with his family (who stay very close to my matrimonial home), he started to dislike me, he would be emotionally distant and unavailable, he picks up on small issues and says I demands respect. I have been through episodes where he has pulled my hair once, slapped me on my forehead, forcibly or unknowingly records videos of me when I am angry and trying to voice my concerns invading my privacy, deliberately broke my mobile in anger, he constantly starts a fight saying he is smart and keeps putting me down, if he gets very angry he pulls my clothes from the cupboard or all my stuff and throws my things around with no respect whatsoever, robbed me of all my money and the wedding gold given by my inlaws. If things don’t go his way or if he dislikes any person from my side of the family they are barred from entering my marital home to the extent of my parents, siblings and friends. The phone line and WiFi has been disconnected or usage not given to me. Earlier he used to support me financially now for the last two years he has not so much so given me a rupee for my personal needs, if I go shopping and pick up even female necessities he constantly brings it up asking me to give him gratitude. Other than food and shelter personally he does not provide me with anything. I do not work as my priority is to take care of the child and my inlaws are not supportive of me. If I do pick up any job at home I am asked to drop it down. He constantly refers to the house as his as he is the one that purchased it long before marriage. If I do want to meet my parents many a times he has asked me to walk away even when the child is small and is being breastfed. Everytime we have a fight, against my wishes he will take me and keeps me at my parents place and be negligent and absent for days on even to the extent of half or one month and only expects me to sit around on chat an the net and will have a non verbal conversation in which he will turn his fault into his defence and make it look like the other is at fault. He will not bother to call or come see the child and there is no support or finance provided, my parents look after us then. He has been previously married about 10+ years back and is divorced and annulled by the church, I recently came to know he lied to me about his previous marriage and the same behaviour was shown to his ex-wife causing her to finally give up where he proved that she was mentally deranged by faking documents. He is so smart that he will stir up a fight or do something and justify it in a pleasing way and put the blame on the spouse. Now recently after 6 months had come to my parents place for a religious function and got his approval to stay for 3 days and after three days asked him to get back and he refuses saying that I cause fights in the house and is the problem to his health. He constantly calls me mad, pathetic, crazy, good for nothing etc...
Its an emotional trauma for me and the baby hence my questions:
If I wish to discontinue this relationship, who gets the custody of the child. He is neither providing for me or my child when we are away or neither keeps in touch (except via non verbal means like whatsapp and email and uses abusive languages there). Is there any way he can have the child custody and under what circumstances (I have a son who is around 2 ½ years).
Will the Goa Civil Codewhich allow each spouse 50% share in their marital property after divorce apply in case I say I want to discontinue.
Will he be entitled to give Child support and Maintanence ?
If I continue with this insane rollercoaster
How do I safe guard myself and my child against these emotional and slightly physical tortures.
Could anyone shed any light, any information will be welcomed.
I am financially incapable of hiring a lawyer and scared of any involvement of police or legal forces.
Kindly Help with information