Respected Experts.....i want to know something related to mediation.....i was thrown out of my matrimonial home....then i filed dv act case.....but no criminal case..no women cell complaint..no dirty cases...later my hubby filed divorce case....i dont want to give divorce.....now under divorce mediation......at the end of the counselling..... counsellor told me "tum divorce dedo apney husband ko.....kyunki agar tum apney matrimonial home wapas gayi toh tumhare husband ke relatives/friends kahenge..dekha lagta hai ladki ki akal thikaaney aa gayi....kitni besharam hai jo wapas aa gayi....." i wanted to know is that right ? if i patch up with my hubby toh kya meri insult hai ismein ??
There is nothing like insult as you have file dv case as there any update on the same case . You can go to back to your husband home . Do you think your husband will take you back in given circumstances as he has thrown you out of your house and filed for divorce. On what grounds he has filed for divorce. This also matters whether those grounds are tenable or not.
Dear Shalini, if you don't want divorce then dont agree with them.Talks during mediation is not recorded.Only listen to your heart, not mediators, they can't force you, but will motivate you which you can deny.
But I will suggest you think of a new life after divorce, dont athink of revenge..as you will loose your valuable time here!
only u can take right decision about what you want and aboutr your life.
Mediator in the first place has no business to express his views or give some sort of suggestions or what people think. As an adult you are empowered to take your own decision in mediation . The job of the mediator is to help both the parties to reconcile their dispute by letting both the parties to arrive at a consensus /understanding out of their own will and volition. Iam very doubtful about the nature of the proceedings you have mentioned, it may be some sort of counselling, generally the mediators are taught not to give any suggestions or analysis of the circumstances in a case. Its time you understood that you cant stop all the people from commenting or saying some gibberish, its you who have to take a decision as you are the best judge of the circumstances around you. in case iam wrong about counselling even if its mediation you can call of the mediation just by saying iam not intrested and ask for a new mediator . Now I feel what you want is peace of mind, for that go through a book called " oh mind relax please " by swami sukhbodhananda , even though its by a swami it does not speak about religion but it will help you to stand up on your own , for the book you can use this link
in the left side of the webpage click the PDF tab you can get the book in pdf form