I am a Dutch citizen of Indian origin. I came here for studies and settled here after that. I met my wife in India a few years later, and she moved to Netherlands. We have a daughter who is 6 years old.
As a husband and wife, we are not doing well at all.
We have had trouble since many years and even now there are so many problems and so many dissatisfactions with each other.
We are basically not compatible. And I am considering going down the path of divorce.
The only big problem to sort out is for the kid.
I am Dutch citizen. My wife and kid are not.
If I approach the court here and file for a divorce, I am sure it will happen easily and smoothly. But I want my kid to stay here in Netherlands. And also my wife, so that the kid could get to see both parents.
But I somehow see it to be very difficult, as I think my wife is not an independent woman, and I am not sure she will be able to live and work here alone and manage the kid every other week.
Also if things work out like that - how does the Indian law system approve of this divorce? Would it be possible that the divorce would be dragged to Indian courts and if it does, as a Dutch citizen would I have trouble?
I am only worried about my wife going to India with the kid and deciding to not come back. Would she be in violation of any laws?
As I have spoken to Dutch lawyers they tell me that it's not legal for your wife to take your kid to some other country. If the local law gives me the right to see my kid every other week and stay with her for every other week, then it's not legal. But what would happen if she goes and doesn't come back?
I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should take this step or not. But one thing is certain, it's very difficult to live a life like this. This is not the life we want for ourselves.
Please suggest what are some of the best options.