kishore pant (network engineer ) 12 September 2012

Disturbed marriage

Dear Experts ,

I got married on 24 June 2012.only after 10-15 days my wife started emotional harassment.She started saying like "suffocation in my home , all her expectation are broken,she started threatening me of police fear as her father is in Delhi police and also threatening me about suicide.From her own mouth she told us that some time she become very short tamper and can take any action without knowing who is in front of her.

Before marriage also she told me few things and i had updated her mother about same.She told me that everything will be fine after marriage but now even her mother is taking her side.
She is in her 23 and she wanted 2 years but because of her parents she got married.
We haven't made any demand as we have all ,but they gave us household thing.My in-laws told me over phone that their daughter is pressurizing them.All of the things are still in packed condition.
Her parents are ready to give us in written that they are not aware about/responsible for any threaten and she will responsible for each and every thing in future.
But they are not ready to give is written in an " affidavit " as according her father one case is already going on him.
pls suggest,If he is not eligible to make a affidavit than her elder brother or herself can make it or not.

what to do.I am very depressed and helpless as its a very big and new thing for me.when she did all this for first time senior members of our family set together and decided to give her a chance but again after few days she is doing same things.

.what are the other steps i can take to make me and my family safe.
These days she is in her home and will be back after 16th June..

pls pls help

with Regards

Kishore

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Tajobsindia (Senior Partner ) 13 September 2012

1. Ask her to hand write OR ask her blood relative of first degree to write and take two witness signature in plain written "admission letter" as hinted / spoken about in mid-post by yourself in your brief. That is sufficient to roll the ball when and if it ever reaches floor of the Court to save your back to some extent compared to having / sticking to nothing in hand. Forget about "putting kitchen knife" and allegation related to same lines she / her side may allege later on, then what shall the two independent witnesses will depose!

2. In my (rare) 'social' opinion she is too young to take marriage seriously more so when her father is in power dress. You should not also negate the possibility of a useful "separation" of few years till she matures and is capable enough to re-join matrimonial home. Separation is via a court decree if carefully handled I think her side will agree for long term harmony. Check the water level at appropriate time for course correction is my concluding view on your query.

kishore pant (network engineer ) 13 September 2012

Thank you very much for your reply and support.

I am totally agreed that she is too young to take marriage seriously and thats wahy want to give her a

third chance and also ready for making adjusment at my end but worried about security of me and my family.

Pls clarify wheather writtened things on a plain paper is enough or it should be on affidavit ?

Is "admission letter" is a different kind of document (like affidavit,bond etc.) or is there any proccess to make a plain paper as admission later.

Har father is ready to give us in written on a plain paper but not on a afidavit.

Thank you in advance

regards

Kishore

kishore pant (network engineer ) 17 September 2012

Dear Experts,

Scenario now is totaly different as my inlaws are not ready to give us anything in written but verbally accepting their daughters fault .I dont have any proof to proove that she used to threatening me about sucide and of delhi police.

They are saying that their daughter dont have will power to do anything wrong with herself and now even they have threatening me for police action.(Dont know what kind of action they talking about )

As i told earlier all the given household things are at my home and in packed condition .Only mediater ( one Elder uncle ) was there and he is aware about that we havent demanded anything but he belongs from our village.

I dont know what is their next step ( whether she is coming or preparing for a police complaint.)

I want to secure us first...

pls suggest..... Is shold i give a information application to local police station..?

what are the other steps...