Brother-in-law's misbehavior

Not Applicable

Kamalji,

First thing is to find her. Is she fine ? To know this, involve some common friends / relatives who could visit her in-laws place and check if she is fine. Then ask some common acquintance to intervene and make the husband and wife sit together and decide about the future of their marriage. If needed be, even for the wellbeing of both the families, the couple should stay away from BOTH THE FAMILIES and understand each other for some time.

 

Meanwhile if they realize that they cant stay with each other, they should take a decision. And if they are well adjusted with each other, its good for BOTH THE FAMILIES.

 

But as I said, FIRST find if she is fine. But still make sure that there is no heated argument etc between the families. Even if the couple is destined to part, it should be done peacefully without ruining the life of anyone

 
Reply   
 
Fighting Frivolous 498A case

@Author,


Your sister is major hence she should be able to think what is right  / wrong for her.


No body should be interefering in married girls life like un-invited judges.


If your BIL doesnt want you guys to call her then let it be.


Let some time pass and your sister would be able to win everybody's respect @ inlaws place. The more you try to control inlaws the more its going to be strained relation. If you try to get into micro managing things and looking in to day to day issues of her life then believe me it is going to be disasterous life for all of you.



 
Reply   
 


Hidden

 
Reply   
 
 
Hidden

Caught you , you are the one who also previously asked same query. And I there also replied same.

You know what's the problem with you ?

You want answer which are in your mind & are favorable.

Ok, I'll give favorable answer.

Go file 498a/406/4/dp & Dv 125 act. These are some common acts who can disturb your's sis inlaws. Consult any ( I mean any , even mentally retarded ) advocate. He can advice you for these laws these days.  Go file them & see the consequences yourself. 

Now I give answer you want. 

OKAY????

 
Reply   
 

@ Zeeshan : Had I wanted to do so I would have done this earlier.. you people are the experts and I really need your expert advice on this issue.. As I told you i never interfere in my sister's married life but I also don't want my sister to bear all this.. she is educated, employed...still the inlaws treat her like maid.

Don't you think my sister deserves a better life???

 
Reply   
 
None

Most of issues you are writing are simply adjustement issues and your sister should be able to handle them.

Some time due to age and background difference - parents and daughter in law face some differnces but that is common and normal with mentally healthy ppl. Your sister should clarify and settle with them.

But looks instead of that she is complianing to you and your parents otherwise how come you guys knows about all these things? Most of them are non sense - she is adult and able to manage all if Mother in law is not giving food she can take her own ? or Mother in law is keeping lock in kictchen? If hse has problem in touching feet during pregnancy - she can raise same. Whats the big thing? Doing own house hold work is not maid's work - take this out of your mind and also from your sisters mind. If it is your sister need shelp she needs to ask her husband for arranging maid.

from all of your post I feed you are over interfering do one thing - just go and livewith sister as part of dowry.

In that way you can help her in daily work and keep an eye on mother in law.


Total likes : 1 times

 
Reply   
 
None

And also 2 years is not long period - in arrange marriages it takes many years to understand spouse it self and depnding on nature of both parties assimilation to new family may take some time.

I feel you are going to spoil life of your sister ...by doing all silly things.


Total likes : 1 times

 
Reply   
 
Manager - Business MIS

Dear Kamal,

You are wishing a happy marital life for your sister like any concenred brother. But going by your posts it seems that you are spoiling your sister's marriage and your sister is helping you in the mission. Please make your sister understand that the in-laws are her own folks and its her family. Give her the confidence that she can resolve the issues as she is adult, mature, educated and employed. Educate her that she should not come up with petty issues to you. Once she starts believing that the in-laws family belongs to her and performing household work there is actually taking care of her house and family..... then see the change in behaviour of in-laws.... also with that she will get respect from her family.......

Two years are not a long period....... give her time to adjust with her family.... do not try to control her life...

One question: Does marriage was performed with her consent? or was against her wishes?

Do not go for police or court procedures...... it will only strain and ruin relationships.....


Total likes : 2 times

 
Reply   
 
Owner

Originally posted by :kamal singh
"
@ Zeeshan : Had I wanted to do so I would have done this earlier.. you people are the experts and I really need your expert advice on this issue.. As I told you i never interfere in my sister's married life but I also don't want my sister to bear all this.. she is educated, employed...still the inlaws treat her like maid.

Don't you think my sister deserves a better life???
"

Kamal, she deserves a good life. But now you should think how to make her life good. As a brother, you can decide what you can do to improve her life but as a wife she is the one who has to take an initiative. Does she want to stay with her husband ? If she wants to stay with her husband and he wants to stay with her, only then the relationship will continue. If they do not want to stay with each other they can divorce each other by mutual consent. Before asking anybody else, you should ask the husband and wife because nobody should interfere in their personal life.


Total likes : 1 times

 
Reply   
 

LEAVE A REPLY


    

Your are not logged in . Please login to post replies

Click here to Login / Register  



 

  Search Forum








×

Menu

Post a Suggestion for LCI Team
Post a Legal Query
Forensics & Evidence     |    x