I am writing regarding my uncle who lives in Gujarat. This is his and his wife's second marriage. They have been married for about 12 years now and have one 7 year old daughter. They are currently living in the same house.
Ever since they got married, his wife has been argumentative and has outbursts of rage. On many occasions, she has gone to live with her parents who have then brought her back promising that she will behave properly. Each time my uncle has given her another chance. After she had a daughter, she changed completely. She has become more and more argumentative. My uncle loves his daughter and till now has stayed with his wife for the sake of the daughter.
Recently his wife has become uncontrollable. She has become abusive. She even abuses my elderly grandmother who lives with them and is over 90 years old and bed-ridden. Recently so much that my grandmother has begged my other uncle to let her live with him. I have heard that she even showed my grandmother a knife recently. Her own daughter starts trembling when she starts shouting. She also threatens her daughter if she misbehaves.
My uncle can't ask his wife even a simple question as she will start shouting which develops into a rage of anger where she becomes uncontrollable, sometimes for hours. Recently, she bought a new smartphone mobile and my uncle asked where she bought it from. She has been arguing continuously for 5 day regarding this one question. When she starts arguing, she shouts so much and starts to bang the doors and even goes out into the street and walks up and down shouting abuse at all hours of the day, sometimes even in the middle of the night. All the neighbours are so tired of hearing this shouting every day, that they have all started complaining and threatened to call the police. A normal person does not act like this. We suspect that she has a mental problem but have no evidence apart from her behaviour.
They are no longer invited to functions for fear that she may go into a rage as this has happened on many occasions. She acts like this in public as well as at home, therefore there are many witnesses to this behaviour.
This has started to affect my uncle's heath who's diabetes has gotten out of control due to the stress. He works as a civil engineer and it has started affecting his job as he is making mistakes due to his mental stress. Due to his health, he wants to retire early, but he can't because he doesn't want to stay at home all day with his wife. She shouts at him while he is eating and sleeping that on many occasions he feels he can't come home. Sometimes for peace and quiet, he goes to sleep in the temple at night.
My uncle has never denied her of anything. He gives her money when she asks for it, but even then she steals money from him and sells the rations and items from the house. She asked for him to buy her new gold necklace to wear for a family wedding. He took her to a gold shop where she started shouting at him in front of everyone. She always wants to put him down.
She lies about everything even to her own parents. She tells them he doesn't buy her any clothes, but the tailor is always asking my uncle for money for her new outfits which he pays without question. She tells her parents that he doesn't buy her any food, but she is always eating outside, and has put on so much weight that no one can say she is not being fed.
She has started doubting him recently. She thinks he has kept another women which is not true. She follows him around everywhere even at work. She often calls his colleagues at work to ask about him. Recently she has started turning his own daughter against him by telling her lies about her father. She is teaching her daughter to lie and steal money. The daughter is becoming argumentative like her mother that she no longer has any friends in school. The daughter's teacher said she is behind in school. This is due to the home life. The wife's behaviour is affecting everyone.
My uncle wants to leave all his property and earnings in the name of his daughter as she is his only child, but he doesn't trust his wife.
Many family elders and village members have tried to talk to her about her behaviour but she doesn't listen to anyone. They have also tried mediation a few times, but that hasn't helped.
My uncle, for the sake of his own sanity and his health told his wife he wants to divorce her but she said she will only leave if he buys her a new house for her to live alone with her daughter. My uncle wants to put his daughter in boarding school to keep her away from her mother, but his wife refuses. She is also demanding half of all his earnings as well as half of his properties.
She has never acted like a wife and we suspect she has married him for his money as we have also heard this from others. She has misbehaved since she got married. She never does any housework, and she is always unreasonable. Her behaviour is getting worse day by day.
My uncle is willing to keep providing for the daughter, but doesn't think the wife deserves anything. Considering all this, if they did get divorced, would my uncle still be required to give his wife half of what he owns?
