After marriage I had been in a joint family where all harrassed me for dowry and insulted me for nothing. All used to keep me away from my husband. Even my husband is cruel. He was very cruel towards me about dowry and even insulted me many times infront of his relatives. They received more dowry from me as compared to their other children but they finished my dowry and kept others and insults me that I brought nothing as others dowry is still now kept for them whose value is increasing day by day. He drinks and had relations with prostitutes and other girls. Even before marriage and after too. He himself told this. He and his parents and even grand parents warned me that I have no right to use my husbands money and also that I should never ask any money but I must spend my parents money only. Due to this warn I stopped asking anything though my husband insulted me that I must wear expensive dresses by bringing from my parents home etc etc.
My husband send me to my parents home about 12 yrs back. I had a female child in my parents home. He used to visit once in an year. In between a gap of 5 yrs. He never gave any money for me or child. nstead he always expected from us. But we stopped that.
First he wanted me to go and live with his parents so that he may not spend any money for his family ie all the care will be taken by his father, for which I refused as I was scared very much as they never accepted me as their family member. To come outside of all these troubles I requested my husband to live separately. But he refused even to talk about the topic of living together. So I was very much hurt and slowely I stopped thinking to settle and live with him. But he just comes here and never talks about living together. So now from past 2- 3 yrs I stopped talking to him due to which he started thinking to live separately.
I asked him about his affairs now. He said he have relations with one girl with name. From then I felt he died for me. Now he started bringing his relatives and fiends to convince me to live with him. But for me there is no place for him. So I am quite. Being confused what to do I did nothing. But still I feel if I will apply for divorce then he may feel bad. So I am quite. But now I am ready for anything.
So now he send a notice from his advocate that "I must join him within 20 days or else he will file a restitution conjugal rights petition in proper court for proper remedy.and you will be liable for the consequences thereon."
I would like to know that as I do not want to go there and live with him, what should be done. One of the lawyer said I delay this and file 125. Another said reply is must. What should be done? If I will not reply then what can happen? I suffered a lot but the blame is on me that I am not understanding the situation and has left such nice, good and caring person. If he is caring then why he never cared about me or child?