Want to divorce my wife after 17+ years of marriage. Let me elaborate -
Flirtatious in nature. Though has not slept with another man (to the best of my knowledge), caught her on several occasions flirting with other men – over facebook, whatsapp, and SMS.
When I caught her flirting with a man (friend from before marriage) on the facebook/phone/sms – it was literally a phone s*x – she begged for mercy and wrote an apology letter not to repeat. I destroyed the letter because I kept going back to the letter which did not help me forget.
Another instance worth mentioning is in last 3 months, she messaged 500 times average per month, to a friend from before marriage. Have evidence of this, but do not have copy of the message. First she refused to divulge and when insisted, she lied to me that it is a girl, but I have the proof now that is a guy whom she knows.
Married her out of caste. Gave her everything the best I could – abroad life, love/romance, care, holidays, material, everything, because she is the only girl I fell in love with. Never ever she had any complaints about anything about me.
Her 2 sisters completely agree with my point of view. They had warned me before marriage in fact; supportive of me divorcing. They know I have given her the best in life, given her chances to correct, but all in vain.
Though hale and healthy now, underwent severe post-natal depression, still takes anxiety tablets; regularly meets psychiatrist and is on medication. With numerous other health problems, surgeries, I supported her in every aspect – gave her best of medical treatment, moral support, etc. Several times driven me nuts and at least twice I thought about ending my life.
Though minor, still worth mentioning – doesn’t take care of her health, is unhygienic, doesn’t take care of house chorus, very badly groomed. Worst, spends tons of time on socializing on facebook, phone, and other media.
I am sick of giving her the best in life, but receiving nothing in return. Despite her adventures, I have given her chances.
We have 2 kids – aged 14 and 10. Don’t want to wreck their life because I love them very much. This is the reason I kept pushing the matter, but now it has reached a point of hopeless for me.
I am employed with decent salary (~2 lacs/month), house (worth 1.5 Cr, with 40 lacs loan pending), some investment towards retirement, car, etc. I don’t mind paying her 1/5 or 1/3. But want to lead peaceful life. I want to start the life afresh (40 is the new 25).
What is the legal opinion? Hope I stand a good chance to conclude this relationship in separation.