Your approach is more of a westernized approach and might really not fetch you the professional attorney that you seek as in the USofA.-----
In the Indian Context and in present day Bangalore, this is a flawed approach.----
You do not retain an advocate. I know you are referring to the retainer advocate / retainer vendor model. ---
But the interpretation can get twisted out of context here in Bangalore, where there are an effective fifty thousand advocates and twenty four thousand practising actively.---
family matters as the matrimonial issues are known colloquially are one too many and almost every law firm and advocate has his / her hands full with these cases, given the fact that the open economy has also given a boost to the negative ego of humans and each one seems to be out with their swords and daggers in an all-out fight to the finish, in these matters.----
As for your case in particular, it would be viewed at as a " use and throw " approach that you are attempting and the fact that you want to provide child support would be interpreted as a one-time settlement to someone who bore your child and that is about it. Period. ----
But neither the law of the land nor that of nature operates that way.----
Your points 2 and 3 would infuriate the segment of society here that would really perceive you as way too arrogant. So you may want to pay attention to the words and the wording.----
when you say ..." I may short list you for possible retention as counsel ".. this seems more like saying " i am throwing some crumbs of bread as piece-meal...any dog out there that wants a grab or two "....
I must tell you in the best of interests that you really look at it from the Indian Context.----
That makes battle-field sense as well since for all the gun-shots that you want to pull out, your opponent might just fire a single bazooka ....
impounding passports, marking a copy to the embassy, interpol alert,...etc etc etc there have been many such scenarios in matrimonial matters, as far as NRIs are concerned....so tread carefully
Although i can refer an advocate or two, i would rather not, since there are one too many flaws in your approach that might set an advocate livid with rage on humanitarian basis.--------
The sort of advocate that you are looking for, the ruthless type, i would rather not direct you to...since he / she would be more ruthless than you are and NETT-NETT the entire thing might go hay-wire....
i suggest you open up the channel of communication with your wife directly and further to that, continue the talk and reach some mutual agreement.----------
Beware of money-crazy pseudo-legal functionaries who would not only fleece you but would also endanger your prospects way beyond even the vaguest of your imagination.----------
At the end of the day, with seasons consuming age faster than fire consumes fuel, a fist-full of life is all that exists, be it a man or a woman....And the lady in question has given birth to YOUR child --- YOUR GENES --- if you feel you deserve respect, you ought to acknowledge that your GENES too deserve respect --- if you feel your genes deserve respect, you ought to acknowledge that the Lady who NURTURED the child- The Carrier of your Genes, deserves MORE RESPECT.----
You may choose to ignore my reply if it aint making sense to you in the purely commercial perspective that you seem to approach the matrimonial institution....
Choice is Yours.---- All the Best and I hope you make amends with your wife for
TIME HEALS EVERYTHING.---