Hi this is mark from chennai, got an arranged marriage in church this year on April 2013.
After all the promises from the girl on the things that she will do or be with me after marriage. She never listens and respects anybody in our family. when we ask something to do, she says that "you are controlling and torturing me". At one point she says she is so reigious and other way never listens and accepts to any suggestion or adjust to any small things.
These things happened for a month, and also she became pregnant. One day we got into a fight and she suddenly said " my life with you is enough", i want a seperation. i was shell shocked at what she said, i tried to control her to be with me. Instead she said i would go to her parents and be with them forever and similarly she went way to her parents home
Later after two weeks i went myself to her home to console make things normal since she is pregant and give due attention to her...I used to take utmost care to my conversation when i talked to her ...Tried to console and give more attention by calling to her regularly
One day,when she was in her parents home , i Visited her, when i asked her to do something, suddenly she disrespects and answers in a brute manner saying " You have again started to control and torture". i was not able to handle this from her , i called and asked her on his politely on this incident. She suddenly erupts throwing various unrelevant things which were already happened before and acts violently.
I consulted this with my parents, i understood that she doesnt want anybody to involve in her decisions and her ways.If I ask something even politely she answers that" if this continues we will seperate". She used to threaten me with this.She always remembers very small small things and if i ask some thing she throws with her words which is un pleasant.
she only lived with me for 1 month and now we are seperated. Now i tried consoling second time also but she always yells and complians about my mother saying that she told me to do like this and many things . Even when i came down to talk to her, she never apologizes or adjust. Now i decided of a seperation after a long thought process although she is pregant , since it is difficult to live with such a lady..Basically she want a puppet husband to be with her.
please advise the process for sepeartion with this lady
