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S.B _Kolkata (Service)     19 March 2011

Warning sign of a future 498a wife


1. Family: Is newly-rich; Likes to show-off (their house/cars/paintings/relatives/ connections, etc.);

Related to politicians/bureaucrats/lawyers/judges/police officers; has a history of filing cases against anybody and everybody (search the website of the courts in their State of residence); Beats up its employees; Lives beyond its means; Mother's face cannot be seen beneath the layers of cosmetics; Father acts like a 'Brown Sahib'; Girl/her sister has been in more than one previous relationship, etc.


2. A push for a quick involvement: Comes on very strong, claiming, "I've/We've never felt loved like this by anyone/or so close to anybody." An Abusive woman/her family pressure the man/his family for an exclusive commitment almost immediately.


3. Jealousy: Excessively possessive; calls constantly or visits unexpectedly: prevents you from going to work because 'you might meet someone;" smells your jacket for perfume residue checks your shirt collar for lipstick marks and goes through your pant pockets.


4. Controlling: Interrogates you intensely (especially if you're late) about whom you talked to, and where you were; wants her name on all your assets/control all the money.


5. Unrealistic expectations: Expects you to be the perfect man and meet her and her family's every need.


6. Isolation: Tries to cut you off from family and friends; accuses people who are your well wishers of "causing trouble."


7. Blames others for problems and mistakes: The boss/the employee, her ex-boyfriend/ ex-husband, it's always someone else's fault if anything goes wrong.


8. Makes everyone else responsible for her feelings: The abuser says, "You make me angry instead of, "I am angry' or, "You're hurting me by not doing what I tell you." Less obvious is the claim "You make me happy."


9. Hypersensitivity: Is easily insulted, claiming that her feelings are hurt when she is really mad. She'll rant about the injustice of things that are just part of life.


10. Cruelty to animals and to children: Kills, maims (e.g., tears the wings off a butterfly) or punishes Animals brutally (e.g., by kicking them till they bleed). Also may expect children to do things that

are far beyond their ability (makes an 18 month old stand in a corner or whips a 2-year-old for wetting a diaper) or may tease them until they cry.


11. "Playful" use of coercion during s*x: Enjoys initiating and controlling s*x, stimulating herself and teasing; asks about your s*xual fantasies.


12. Verbal abuse: Constantly criticizes you/your family, or says blatantly cruel, hurtful things; disgraces, curses, call you/your family ugly names. This may also involve sleep deprivation, waking you up with relentless verbal abuse.


13. Rigid s*x roles: Expects you to serve and obey her/her family.


14. Sudden mood swings: Switches from sweetly loving to explosively violent in a trotter of minutes or even more confusing, within seconds. You feel as you are walking on "eggshells" around her.


15. Past behavior: May not actually admit to hitting men in the past (but may write it in her journal/diary and says they made her do it or the situation brought in on).


16. Threats: Makes statements like, "My parents will support me even if I murder someone," or "A woman is always right/the system should always believe the woman" or "I will cut you up the way a fisherman slices fish" and then dismisses them with, "Everybody talks that way," or "I didn't really

Mean it." If she has come this far, it is time to get help and get out!

Be carefull before going to get married.




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HA HA HA.....

Rama chary Rachakonda (Secunderabad/Highcourt practice watsapp no.9989324294 )     19 March 2011

Yes. Your alert statements for marriages are good.


Indian girls are Honest, Truth-speaker, Cultural, Shy, Sweet, Sita, Princess.



Forget about humans, the above statement will even make a donkey laugh.

If you ask a donkey about Indian girls, then they will answer - MOST of the Indian girls are spoiled tarts.

But girls think they are Princess, which again creates laughter.


Thanks for providing the useful alerts. I will keep these in my mind.


"""Mother's face cannot be seen beneath the layers of cosmetics"""


This is 100% true.

I have seen a women in my colony who runs a beauty parlour. She is over 45 but still looks like 30 yr old woman by makeup. She has three daughters & one son. Her all the three daughters are pros.


Such symptoms can be found in a prospectve mother-inlaw also.Sab mother inlaw doodh ki dhuli nahi hoti.


So all girls who are about to tie the know,beware!


Closely observe your mother-inlaw for the above signs.If she has them,think 100 times if you would want to marry her son,for she would make your life hellish while her son may refuse to defend you(most Indian husbands become mice in front of their mothers,when it comes to protecting wives)


Indian males want women to be working and earning, when she is his separated wife.

That lady is earning her way of living by runnning the parlour.To wear make -up is d nessecity to run her business.Her make-up is equivalent to the THOUSANDS of LIES of a SALES EXCUTIVE!!

Mr. Rajeev Kumar why u have so much objection with that lady's make-up??????????

And how do  u know her daughter's are Pros?


Wives are not a thing to be discussed this way...


Plzz don't try to expect silence from me by throwing the lebel of feminist.!!!!!!!

Can any body tell me what is the opposite word of feminist??

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Roshni B.. (For justice and dignity)     22 March 2011

opp. of a feminist will be a doormat,who will tolerate her husbands' and inlaws' abuses and beatings with a big smile on her face.

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@Anti feminist

    I think Opposite of feminist is  a rude,insulter,selfish, irresponsible, BIOLOGICAL FATHER OF KIDS,ADULTEROUS( WHO EVEN DSN'T HESITATE TO HAVE S*X WITH HOUSE MAID) having married sister at own home....has a desire to be rich with wife's father's money...

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You tell me (Personal)     26 March 2011

Hehe Thank you very much..


Atleast these symptoms are true in my case. You should have posted this few years back... lol

Sometimes women show jealousy and some other actions mentioned above but usually they don't over do it.. If they overdo it then becareful.

You tell me (Personal)     26 March 2011

You can live with unhealthy wife and take care of her

You can live with wife who fights for small things but take good care of you (its her way of showing love)

But you can't live with a wife who has no Moral Values, Loyality, Honesty atleast Humanity.


These warnings signs are same which happened with me and now I am in long going legal battle which messed up my whole life even my family life.


@You tell me

your points in the second post are just.

Whether man or woman to lead a good and healthy relation honesty, loyality, faith and love is a must.

You tell me (Personal)     26 March 2011

Yes I do agree it applies both for Man and Women not specifically for Women alone..


Inital points also applies to both.

stylistperson (Director)     29 March 2011


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