| Originally posted by : autohide4u |
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Willfully failing to take responsibility for sustaining the marriage or willfully expecting undue amount of compromise from your wife to sustain the marriage is a form of abuse when seen in larger context of Indian society. Such abuse is a form of cruelty and can potentially drive a woman to suicide. |
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Absolutely not. No woman needs to commit suicide. She can begin divorce proceedings and get separated from the husband. Besides, no one can predict the future. No one can predict that your husband is going to stray to another woman, no one knows if he will be alive tomorrow. A woman, of marriagable age must have the strength to face her future no matter what happens. Instead of resorting to suicide, she has to find a way to move ahead in life. For people like you who are overly dramatic, suicide is the only option. There are everyday examples of women who have severed ties from husbands who deserted/abused them without slapping false charges and lived normal lives. In short, its called being mature and being responsible to take care of your life. People who can't do that resort to filing false charges, extorting their inlaws by claiming to the police that they were on the verge of committing suicide. If the husband has committed violence, there is no court in India that will pardon him from the injuries mentioned on the medical report. He will be sentenced to jail in accordance with IPCs. Millions of women are physically abused but a very small percentage of them use the laws designated for them. Instead it is the dramatic women from upper middle class families who indulge in legal warfare.
| Originally posted by : autohide4u |
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One cannot marry a girl and after one month tell her to pack up and leave, take MCD queitly and move on. Such behaviour is rightfully criminalized by Indian law. Marriage is not like going to a prostitute. |
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Like I said, the husband can get killed in a car accident the next day after marriage. She must have the strength to move on.
You are talking like an aggrieved woman when you talk of marriage as going to a prostitute. No man would think so, as a prostitute is a far more economic manner of fulfilling ones desires without having to pay anything more than the services rendered. A prostitute is economically advantageous to any man. There is no alimony, there are choices of different women every night, there is no drama and there is no question of looking after kids. But why do men marry? For women like you who entertain abusive thoughts as equating a marriage to prostitution, there can be no anwer. You are consumed in your anger against men, taking it out here in the forum. I now understand why you indulge in your mocking. You simply hate men, through and through. Well, honey, you shouldn't judge every man as being like your ex husband. Sorry he treated you like a prostitute, but that doesnt mean all men are like him.
| Originally posted by : autohide4u |
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Perhaps making you face a criminal trial, run around in courts and pay maintenance is your wife's way of driving this fact into your stubborn head. Perhaps the reason you are still running around in courts is because you still don't get it. |
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Funnily people who have no understanding of the law think that maintenance needs to be paid to women who misuse the law. Allow me to explain that the law will strike down alimony on those who raise false 498A. There are umpteen cases where alimony has been denied to women who raised false cases. Also, the law mentions that divorce can be granted against women who raise false case as it constitutes "mental cruelty". Unfortunately interim maintenance has to be paid until the case is declared false.
People "run around court" like I do because , as I said earlier, the law does not differentiate between false and real cases. The IPC was drafted keeping the safety of the woman in mind, by introducing immediate arrest of husband and inlaws. Only very recently was the part of "immediate arrest" removed, allowing people to apply for AB.
Sorry honey, nobodys being stubborn here. You're being unreasonably hateful and vindictive because your husband abused you, and escaped. His escape is what fuels your anger. No point directing it towards me, dear.
