Retirement benefits are meant only and only for use / disposal of the pensioner employee, where you do not have any claim. - I don't want to claim his retirement money but my younger brother is collacting behalf of my father & mother (both are alive) for long time. I never objected or wanted any of it anyway.
Similarly self-acquired property of your father/mother /parents can be disposed by him/her /them (as the case may be), where you cannot claim or compel him/her/them. - I know that as well and matter of fact i bought my grandfather a home which my mother (inharited from her father) want to give it to my younger brother. I know that's wrong and not fare. Equality of parents is no longer due to brainwashing by my sister (control freek & rich) and brother who is always after money. My father is living himself in India and he is so sick and weak and no one is providing good food or services he needs but they want the money. I am helping him recentely during my visit to India from USA. We are all US Citizens.
Presumably your behaviour with your father/ mother/ parents is not appreciated by them, which you are required to introspect and find solution. - My family have teamed up against me due to my nature of fareness and blunt on truth with my own family. My family have issues and with the attitude of "they are always right" or they don't need anyone so they don't care. So you agree with them or you are bad. Because I feel bad & taking care of my father, my sister/mother & brother said I have changed now but they don't understand that I have been a same person all along. I am mercing my father as son and as human being. my mother who left my father and went back to USA saying "I don't want to suffer with him and my brother doesn't come to India to help him but wants all the money from parents. Law doesn't understand this and I would say all of their money should be donated to poor people or for inocent animals.