Did she tell you or suggest you that she wants your brother and parents out of the house and then the 50% share of your mother's property ?
Accepting or understanding somebody's expectations with due respect implies your maturity to listen to the other person. There is no need for you to accept the other persons unreasonable demands (which are no more called expectations). But it does not hurt to know what the other person wants, with due patience. Once you know what you want from each other, then you can weigh in options in consultation with your well-wishers. Relationships are about give and take. You meet a couple of expectations of hers, and then she will meet your expectations. Trust me, relationships are not about arguments they are about mutual understanding. Certain type of people who are argumentative in nature lose their sleep more than those who are patient and willing to understand.
I reiterate my earlier suggestion to see a marriage counsellor. You are an educated and intelligent person so I recommend, if you have not already read a very famous book by Dale Carnegie "How to win friends and influence others". There are three books by Leil Lowndes "How to talk to anyone", "How to make anyone fall in love with you" and "How to make anyone like you". They are gems. Life is all about building relationships and keeping them.