I married my husband in a civil ceremony in Mumbai in 1991. My husband and myself lived and worked in Dubai since then. Since October 2008, I have come across a lot of material proving that he is having an affair with a 24 year old Filipino girl who lives in the Phillipines and who he met online. I forgave him in 2008 as he begged pardon for straying and told me that he would never repeat it again. However once a cheater always a cheater as the saying goes, i stumbled on some document in June of 2010 where in he had invited this same girl to join him on his vacation in Kerala that year. When I asked him for an explanation, he was dumbfounded as he knew that this was it between him and me as I had told him in 2008 that I would walk out if he ever repeated the same. We had a very good marriage, no problems, no squabbles, we travelled together and our 20 year marriage was generally very peaceful. In June of 2010 as I had promised him, I packed my bags, bid him goodbye and left the house and returned to India. He sent me emails stating that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and that I am a very good soul and it is an addiction he has which he needs to get to the root of it and kill the evil after which he will return to me as he is well aware of where I will be. In October of 2010, I sent him an email requesting him to take care of himself, as I still care for him, (20 years is a long time to be together as you will understand) and that he is always welcome at anytime if he changes. However I have not heard from him since.
I would now like to proceed with applying for a Divorce. I do not wish him to pay for me or for my upkeep as I want him to be happy with whoever he wants to be with, as I still care for him. We do have two girls who are both working and well settled in life and they too are not interested in any of his money. I just need to file my divorce papers and send it to his office in Dubai and I know when he receives them he will endorse the same without hesitation as I have already mentioned to him my intentions. I need to get the Divorce papers through in order to get free from all legal attachments that me or my kids might have with him. Thank God that during my working period in Dubai I bought my own house in India.
Appreciate your guidance on how can I proceed with the Divorce formalities.