Hi !
This is my 2nd marriage and my first marriage ended in a divorce due to phyical and mental torture after 3 years of marriage. Then i got remarried in 2011 after seeing this guy for nearly a year( this was his 3rd wedding ) ! Two months before the marriage he started behaving very wierdly and wanted to call of the engagement. I kept persuading him as i had got too emotional about him and finally we settled down after i decided to sign a prenuptial agreement with him which i did not disclose to my parents.
He has 2 kids a daughter aged 15 who stays with his Ex wife in USA and son who stays with me. Immediately after marriage i was not given the treatment as expected by me , for instance being served cold food when i had lunch for the first time in their house. Everybody seemed to mistrust me and asked him to keep all imp documents in the office and to lock his phone and computer etc etc etc.
After 15 days his daughter comes and starts staying with us. He first says she is here for a vacation and then starts coaxing me to keep her with me & i completely refuse as i was taking time to adjust with the son and i spoke to his mother about this and she asked me not to worry saying she will not come till we dont allow.
Bonding with the son was not easy as he was spoilt and had to be taught manners and was not willing to study or finish school assignments, In the process i used to get angry and lose patience but kept telling my hubby to take charge but he was too lazy and expected me to coach his son.
Once i was also hit by him but my hubby kept quiet and i had to tell him to stop him. Small incidents kept happening and i was losing patience. Slowly my outbursts became louder and started getting irritated and angry.
In the meantime he was in touch with his Ex and she kept coaxing him to take his daughter back and said she will join him later. I happened to read these exchange of mails and was shocked that he was wanting to reunite with his Ex . I confronted him y'day and he initially declined but i said i happnd to read his mails and to which he replied that i will bring back my daughter and i want peace for both the kids and for myself. My son is not bonding with u so thats also an issue. I said we can talk abt the daughter but from where does the EX crop up , he says i am not sure abt her.
This June when i was out of station he left the house & said lets separate then after much coaxing he returns back but his & his kids' attitude was unbearable.
Finally on 5th November wen i was not in town for 2 days he again leaves but this time goes to his ex wife in USA and has no contact with me. I did send an email to which he calls me saying that we should get divorced. I was also prepared this time and he returned to India on 17th Oct and on the sly takes the keys of the house from the servant and takes out his son's books etc and starts staying in a new house.
The whole diwali week we bareky had any interactions and i calle dhim to meet teh lawyer and claimed an alimony of 50 lacs .
On 27th Oct we met at the office as we both work in the same office and i kept asking him to finish this matter.
Till today we havent been able to arrive ant anything concrete. I cant understand what to do. Should i leave the house and go back to my parents house in Kolkata or continue staying here alone .
I dont want to get into any litigation as this will spoil couple of years.
Pls advice what should i do.
I am in deep stress
