I got married in 2009.
My husband is nice guy but he listens to his parents all the time. He keeps talking to his mother 24 hours. Since he moved to my city after the marriage my parents asked him to live with us in my parents house. But his mother was totally against this idea and forced him not to accept. So he bought a new house in my city and we stayed there.
We had a girl baby in 2010.
Since he is Senior Manager in his company he gets lots of calls. Many girls are talking to him. I think he has many affairs. Sometimes I've seen his chats in Whatsapp Viber saying dear darling etc to other girls. Once I've gone to his office building (we both work in same campus) and kept on calling him but he didn't pick up and then I saw him coming out with his colleague (a much older lady than him laughing & talking to her) but ignoring my calls. So I think he has lot of affairs.
His family is upper middle class while mine is lower middle class. I want to give my entire salary to my parents as they have many loans after marrying off my 2 elder sisters and myself. So its only fair I return my duties to them for all that they've done for me. But he's saying I can give only half my salary. He's spending his salary on our house chores and house loan but his parents are well off so they don't require his money.
He planned to buy another house recently and asking me my jewels for that but I denied it and luckily safeguarded all jewels in my mothers house. But one day he found out and asking me to bring it but I have been postponing it as much as possible.
Jun 2013, it came to peak stage so I went to my parents house. Initially I gave police complaint only for him to change and come back but he's still not changing so my lawyer adviced to file 498a. So filed FIR in Aug 2013.
He then came for mediation but again he's not accepting my parents conditions.So mediation failed. My family felt our lawyer is not doing enough to support my case because even though 498a FIR is done no change in my husnabd he's happily roaming without any consequence. So we changed our lawyer.
Aug 2014, I've filed DV case on him as per my new lawyers suggestion. But even while he's coming to court he's happily smiling at Judge and everyone and I think he doesn't understand the seriousness of the issue at all. He's not bothered about me.
Under these circumstances, what else can I do to make my husband change?