b4 marriage ,if men keep scrutinizing girls' families b4 before marriage to know if they will host the marriage in a baraat ghar or in a hotel,in a temple or in a farmhouse,in a banquet hall or in a tent,,men will end up marrying wrong women
if while finding a suitable match for themselves, men give priority to extreme beauty and fairness in a girl,they will end up marrying wrong women
if while finding a suitable match for themselves, men allow their parents to scrutinize how good dowry her parents can give, ,they will end up marrying wrong women
on the other hand,if they look for good qualities ONLY instead of her financial status,they will be saved from harassment of cunning women whom they ended up marrying.....
they shud verify before marriage the girl's character,her nature,her family members' nature etc....thru neighbours,workplace of her/her family members,etc instead of screening and finally interacting with only those girls b4 marriage who have a good financial standing
Look at the matrimonial ads for seeking brides.........u will know that grooms use statements like want girl from status family,similar status family(if groom is rich),decent marriage expected, only families of v.fair and extremely beautiful girls may respond,etc,etc, etc....
at the time of screening girls b4 marriage,they make a big mistake of leaving out all those girls who have real attributes just becoz they may be orphaned,whose father is no more,who use statements like DOWRY SEEKERS EXCUSE OR SIMPLE MARRIAGE).... becoz they are unable to host a good marriage.
And in the end they are left with very few choices and end up marrying a wrong person who may act too smart becoz she paid a hefty dowry(here i m not saying that all gals who give good dowry misbehave)
they shud remember all that glttiers is not gold........... foolishness ends up in misery........
dats y our elders have always focussed on sansakaari family while choosing a match.....but we no more pay heed to such sacred advice now...as we want booty alongwith the bride
our only consideration shud be:
girl's profession(if the boy desires so)
her attributes & temparament
family's moral values.
matching of kundlis by a GOOD astrologer(kundlis give a v.good idea about the prospective spouse's temperament..........whether u believe or not,provided u have appointed an expert astrologer for the same)
PS.-I'm also a woman,so obviously i m not saying all women are cunning....my advice is only that only the girls's qualities shud be main consideration