Thanks to all for the replies.
@ Rahul - could you send reference of supreme court case?
Considering 'jamai of law'-s reply, I understand that even above judgement, or any other clauses put into the agreement, may at most help me get back the part alimony paid to her. I cannot ensure her consent till the end.
Even if I cannot ensure her consent, does anyone know of a way by which I can continue the contested divorce case, if she withdraws consent? This way I do not lose 5 years of effort.
@TAjobsindia, unfortunately the options for husbands to file counter cases are very limited. Wives have DVA and 498a! Could you suggest some options for husbands?
Also when do you think IrBM will get passed as legislation? Already BJP and Left have decided to oppose it. I think it may be another two-three years if at all.
Could someone also recommend a well experienced (20+ years experience) lawyer for cross-examination of my wife in trial court. He/she must be able to dissect the case thoroughly and come up with a plan of attack and execute it.