Hi Respected Members,
My wife has been living with my in laws for more than 3 years and has refused to stay with me either in my parents house or even if i take a separate house(just for me and her) .I need some help to figure out what are my options and how to take this forward. More details of my situation are below :
I was married in Feb 2013 and in June 2014 there was a minor fight between my mom and my mother in law at my house over the taste of some dish. ( the root cause was actually very stupid). During this time i was not in town and was living in another town for 2 months due to some project work. So after the fight my mother in law created a ruckus in front of my house and walked away with her daugther to her house stating she can take care of her daugther better than anyone else and also she will get her married to a much better person than me.At that time, my wife was 5 weeks pregnant. So when i was back in town sometime in Sept or Oct'14 - I made repeated attempts to convince my wife to get back and sort things out in a mature way as we were having a baby. But all this fell was deaf ears and nothing happened. I was also abused in my laws place and warned not to visit her until she has a baby. My wife delivered a baby boy in Jan 2015 and i was never informed anything about this. I had sent her repeated requests via text messages and whatsapp requesting her to keep me posted on the baby's development and also that I had issurance and made money arrangements for the delivery.But, I was informed by a 3rd party ( a known person who lives near her house) about her having a baby and I rushed to the hospital. There i was not allowed to touch my son and was abused there as well. So after all this- i never msged, called or visited her house for 10 months.
So sometime in Oct'15 - I decided to give it another try as even she never called or msged me in this time frame.So from Oct'15 to till date. I visit her place maybe twice in a month and now im allowed to play with my son near her door (not inside the house). But whatever gifts, toys and fruits i get for my son - it is thrown to the dustbin or given away to the maid right in front of my eyes. I'm not allowed to carry him or take him outside. Sometimes when i go she shoo's me away saying she is busy. When ever i ask her what is that she wants and why is she not staying with me. Her answer is simple : I will never live with you because you dint support my mother and i will not give you divorce as well. You can come like a dog near my gate see your son and go. All i want is to see you suffer like this. She also said do what ever you want i will never move to the court first and once you go there i will suck the life of you .
Now my question is what can i do considering ?
1. All her relatives are some sort of high profile lawyers in town. So she is fairly convinced she will make me run around the courts and act innocent.
2. She is economically way better off than me , so she can afford the costs of legal fees.
3. Sometime between Sept'14 to Nov'14 - I had sent her a few nasty messages stating dont act like a witch, gets fix things in our life. She has printed out these messages and threatens me, that she will file complaint againt me and put me behind bars. She also has abused me over phone and messages. She even slapped me once for trying to carry my son.But i deleted all these messages. I never kept proof of anything.
4. She also threatens she will kill herself and the baby and blame in on me and my mother, if i ever ask her to live with me again.
Im not too keen on divorce, if the issue can be solved I am ok to live with her for my son. But currently im thinking getting a divorce is better than my current state where im being treated like a dog to see my son. Also I quit my current job as i was not able to handle the pressure of my personal life. So whats the best way forward keeping in mind my limited ability to bear legal cost and hastles.
Thanks in advance.