I regularly read your opinions in this forum to grasp legal knowledge. I need your help to let me know how to proceed my case in best possible manner as I find you all very knowledgeable in legal matters.
Me and my husband got into arranged marriage around 3 years back through newspaper matrimonial section. My father-in-law demanded expensive car and lavish wedding arrangements during marriage as he has only one son (i.e. my husband) and I am only daughter to my parents. Everything went fine , we found these demands ‘OK’ considering mentality of Indian society.
Problem started from 2nd month onwards – when my in-laws started asking my salary details , my expense statement for which I said I dnt have enough salary to provide you as I have emptied my account in my wedding expense. Slowly, things started getting worse. My in-laws dominating and aggressive nature and my husband totally supporting his parents made things bitter on which my parents family had to intervene. Both families had huge verbal fight but nothing resolved. One year after, my in-laws sent me to my “Maayka” on my brother child birth but didn’t come to take me back home for 5months. When my parents asked why they are not taking me back or asking my husband to take me back home, my in-laws made huge scene out of that saying First my family should ask Sorry for favoring their daughter (myself) in previous fight and pay R3lakh cash to him for their house construction. My parents (oblivious of my in-laws intention) paid him that amount and didn’t inform me about this demand.
5 months later, my husband came to take me back home. Post which , they also withdraw Rs 10 lakh from my account on pretext of their house construction. I asked them to take this amount via cheque or online transaction for which they completely denied. Because they didn’t want to maintain any record of money taking from us. They instigated my husband also to beat me up for saying NO to them. In past 3 years, they beated me physically 4 times for some or other reason. My husband is 100% in their control and he doesn’t know how to balance between wife and parents. I had no problem in living with my in-laws and adjusted myself to their behavior. I am fed up with my husband as he is spine-less.
When they beated me 4th time in Aug’13, It got enough for me , I called up my family and police and lodged a police complaint against my husband and his parents. Police took me to AIIMS trauma center and I got my MLC done also. Seeing police pressure, my husband broke up and suddenly agreed to live separate with me . Considering the situation there, I didn’t want him to get arrested so I did compromise there and agreed to live with my husband separately if he is sincerely thinking to make our marriage work.
2 months have passed, I am staying at my parents place. For past 2 months, my husband has put on condition that first remove police complaint completely , only then I will live with you. Else you will keep lodging such complaints again and again in future. I confirmed from police sources also that my complaint is no longer valid and doesn’t hold any importance as we both reached a compromise. But my husband is using this as an excuse NOT to live with me. I am sure my in-laws are behind all this strategy.
Honestly, I dnt want my marriage to break but current circumstances are hinting me to break this marriage else I will repent whole life. There is no emotional bond created between both of us due to which we have no kid.
I need your help which path to take on – First approach Women cell and then file case if reconciliation fails OR file case directly. Will court ask me to go back to Women cell at any stage ? I call up my husband every 3-4th day but he has not got 1% softer towards me. He is adamant at his demand to remove police complaint which is no longer valid. He and his family members are not social . They dnt have friends or neighbors or relatives else I would have taken their help.
My entire joint family is very against simply taking mutual divorce right now. As they say my in-laws (greedy people) should get some punishment. To add to my misery, Even now my husband completely denies admitting taking any of my (10 lakh) or my family money. He says what proof do we have against them as all money was in cash..
I am really confused . please suggest me something.