Hi Queriest, Thank you for posting on behalf of your friend.
For simplicity, I am directly responding to your friend below.
Hello there,
Please note. As per law, both asking for dowry and giving dowry are offences.
In a hurry to get you married, your parents have committed the dowry offence by offering bribe/dowry as demanded by your husband's mother. Your parents should have stopped marriage on demand of money/jewel from your husband's mother. So, the dowry offence applies to both the parents here in your case.
In the short time of 2 to 3 weeks you have met, if consummation has not happened, that is not a big deal at all. Consummation should happen naturally when both parties come together emotionally.
In your case, the issue has started even before marriage. Also you both are living physically separated.
You have also told that your husband has not shown even "a little pinch of affection" on you.
Then how both of you will consummate the marriage? Please give some time for the same.
Both of you go to doctor if consultation is needed.
Please try whether both of you can start living together either in Chennai or Bangalore.
You mentioned that you are a working woman.
After your marriage, both of you should share the family expenses if both of you are working.
If your husband has asked to share your salary, what is the crime there?
Are you not expecting your husband to spend on you?
Before marriage, did you make any agreement with your husband for not to pay your salary to him?
Asking for your salary is not a crime.
If your husband is demanding property share from you, record his demand in a voice recorder.
If your husband is always torturing and scolding you, record the same in a voice recorder.
Then file a case on him.
Even if you do not have voice recording, you can simply walk into a police station and give complaint.
Our law is one sided to women and your case will be immediately registered.
And, if you want you can get your husband and in-laws arrested.
As per SC directive, now a days police do preliminary enquiry before doing any arrest.
Why do you suspect impotency? Do you know both men and women have impotency?
Like the respected lawyer Rangee mentioned, you have to prove the degree of impotency.
If court asks both of you to go for medical checkup, then only the degree of impotency can be asserted.
Consider the case of one of my friend. He is potent. But his wife could not get pregnant because of her health issues. But my friend did not divorce her. They are hopeful and trying many medical help to become parents of a child. They are happily married for 12 years now.
We are all creation of God. Let us not humiliate each other by throwing impotency or infertility allegations.
This forum will really appreciate that you do not want to file any criminal case on your husband.
But you seem to have lost trust on your husband as well as on your ability to carry forward with this marriage.
As per law, you have to wait for one year before filing for divorce.
You can file case under cruelty as you have listed many offences against your husband.
Gather and have all evidences against your husband.
If you can prove those offences, you can get divorce in few years after filing divorce.
Or if you want early divorce, embarrass your husband by filing a divorce based on non-consummation.
Due to embarassement, your husband might skip the court hearings.
Then you will get exparte decree of divorce or annullment as the case may be.
But, if your husband appears in court and proves his potency by medical records, then your case will fail. Again you have to find other reasons to divorce him.
Essentially, you will lose many crucial years of your young life.
Before trying any of these suggestions, make sure you have done your best conscious efforts to understand and love your husband and save your marriage.
You said that your parents even gave lot of dowry to get you married?
Now, what are they saying to your decision of ending this marriage in 3 months.
Hope you have got their advice also.
