Having an "affair" and hiding that from other person is a clear reflection of a person's charecter.
i clearly said that if the affair was after marriage,he can apply for a divorce.so how do u feel i am biased towards him?.if it's b4 marriage,i advised him that this is common nowadays.if unmarried people start telling their prospective partners abt. their affairs they shall never get married...i dont know wot bugged u both so much...
If a husband and openly says, after marriage, that he had an affair with another girl wouldnt you sympathise for the girl..be honest..
the question of sympathy for a married man/woman arises only when his spouse's affair is continuing post marriage.
Also, Mahesh has just mentioned that his wife stayed with him only for 10 days and she is now with her father. But you have alreday made multiple assumptions..... that he has sent her back to her father's place.
this is wot any1 wud infer after reading his story,because he said that the cause of dispute is her past affair.i dont understand why u r overreacting to my statement.
kindly read my statements and tell me wherever i said "HE HAS MEDICAL PROBLEMS FOR WHICH HE SHUD SHOW HIMSELF TO A SEXOLOGIST.he had said that both of them have no phy. relations.so i advised both of them to meet a s*xologist together and if ANYONE of them has a problem he can take treatment..s*xolgists give marital counselling also even when there's no medical problem.i hope u know this.but u reacted without reading properly what i wrote.
.asking him if he and his parents are guilty of dowry demands... Y...Why are u making such unwated assumptions???
i am not assuming.just cautioning for his own good...becoz he said she filed dowry case.so i asked him if he's sure before plunging into litigation.
Worst part, are your statements "its v.common nowadays that unmarried people have affairs,flings etc.if the partner is gud after marriage these things dont matter.how are u sure that if u marry another gal,she'll be a pure virgin gal?either u marry an uneducated villager..but in her case also,no guarantee".....
okay do u want me to say that nowadays all unmarried men and women are bramachaaris and celibates?fine.... i shall speak a lie if it pleases u who lives in a fantasy world.please check the stats urself to know how common premarital s*x is,even in women...and only a psychic/enlightened person can read a person's face b4 marriage to knw. if he's virgin or not...
i take an hypothetical example ..will you agree to marry a person who had relationship with multiple girls before marriage and just says that he wouldnt continue that relatsionship after marriage??...remember..marriage doesnt necessarily change one's character..way of life etc...when women ask for husband's to be Rama then they should first be like Sita...
the author said his wife had AN AFFAIR, ie, 1 AFFAIR before marriage...if he had said she had MULTIPLE AFFAIRS,i wud not have advised him so much...i dont knw where u read the word "multiple" in his query...
finally 1 suggestion to you anonymous jee:
please use reading glasses before fighting with any1 as u read wrongly everyth...if you use them already,kindly get an eyecheckup done
PS: it s v.irritating that certain members who seem to have personal grudges due to differing viewpoints overreact without reading and understanding wot i am saying.and this is how they come in forums to fight to take out their hatred.i am not bothered if they like my views or not,and i will never bother also...but i cant go on justifying everything...which i may not do each time for every silly reply henceforth.
for example: the other day,when there was a discussion in a thread that parents luk for well off and physically able boys for their daughters which is only natural on their part,i got such replies(that seemed like lectures)in which the content of the write up suggested that the writers think i have grudges against children who study in govt. schools,against handicapped people as prospective grooms,and against poor men also as prospective grooms.whereas i was just discussing the minset of parents in arranged marriages.i did not reply to these posts as i cant go on convincing a person if he's judgemental about me and has a fixed mindset about my nature.....so i ignored it although it pissed me off.