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Can I Second marriage with my Sister -In-Law

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Parthasarathi Loganathan (Advocate)     05 April 2010

Let us all profess in the true spirits of One Man one Wife theory and stop this thread from enlarging the perspective of the silly s*xual needs of the author
 

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Rajan Salvi (Lawyer)     05 April 2010

What do the children say? I believe even the poor girl was a minor when she was seduced. Like Mr Parthasarthi said ' let us stop entertaining this person'.


(Guest)

please give him a legal opinion not moral or personal opinion. tell him why not to do it and how it can be done within the law.


(Guest)

please give him a legal opinion not moral or personal opinion. tell him why not to do it legally and how it can be done within the law / bypassing the law .

Parthasarathi Loganathan (Advocate)     06 April 2010

My dear Swatir, Legal fraternity stands first in discouraging any act that relates to Moral Turpitude.  Advocate's profession is the only job in the world which forbids even Law practice when the Character of the practitioner is questionable.  Hence, LCI cannot be the best forum to discuss or seek opinion for such personal fleshy wishes of a human being.  SORRY...

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(Guest)

When its bigamy and an offence as many advocates have already put it in this thread, what's else is required to say, Mr.Swatir. As advocates/legal luminaries, ideas cannot be given bypassing law in this kind of matters otherwise we will also become perpetrators alongwith Lee. Laws are meant to regulate society. If the laws are bypassed, then the society will once again become lawless.

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Parthasarathi Loganathan (Advocate)     06 April 2010

Hats Off.. Rao Sahib. You have nailed the issue to the coffin


(Guest)

i m still a learner, for such advice u please seek opinion personally with some friend and not discuss it in public as if all people kno whow to bypass law society will b lawless i agree.i will still say go ahead n do it :)

Kamal Grover (Advocate High Court Chandigarh M:09814110005 email:adv.kamal.grover@gmail.com)     06 April 2010

Dear Mr.Bainwala,

Nodoubt there is way out but nobody can help you to do such type of immoral act.

You are just putting pressure on your wife and your sister in law is just 16 at the age of teen age. Therefore, she is not the age of right decison but it is age of true guidence by parents like you.
Morally, it is not true so think again.

She is just 16 at the age of your daughter and you are just sedusing her for the sake of your lust.

and your wife is agreed just because of your pressure coz she knows that even if she restrain you even then you will Not be agreed and put pressure by physically or mentally to satisfy your lust.

Moreover it seems that you kept the girl not to help that poor girl but to satisfy your lust.

So think morally.

You are giving reason of God who kept two or even some have 100 or more wifes but if you are God then you can do anything and nobody will say anything but if you want to compare youself with gods, then there is no LAW for you coz you are God.

The basic different between you and God is that God had power and thousand of Men live inside their soul and therefore you cannot compare with them.

But in our Indian Law, it is not permissible at all but you have not to worry at all coz i think you can handle everything as GOD. So think this differnce and stop taking the plea that lots of god have more wifes.

We cannot stop you but we can guide you from an illegal act and a wrong act which will be a spot on your character and may be your children will choose the same patteren and chose a 40 or 50 years old man at the age of 15 or 16.

You are ideal for them so be like that.

You may enjoy in market there are lots of call girls who will satisfy you but plz think again about your decision.

Even then if you want to proceed then it will be your bad luck. I can wish only Good luck, if you will change your decision.

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Mahadeva Rao G (student)     06 April 2010

hi ,  Dear Mr. Lee kaun  mainwala

U r  Business Analyst,  what  business u do sir,  Pls dont  mind if i am asking this Question,  For Heaven Sake pls read the following  carefully.     I know it is lengthy but i am sure  this  should  show u the Right Direction.       COURTESY :  SUCHITRA  SRINATH

MARRIAGE

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you... She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce... I raised the topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chop sticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company...

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce.

She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door every morning. I thought she was going crazy... Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions... She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully...

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time... I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, "all my dresses have grown bigger…” I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.



But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind.... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death does apart.

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The sales girl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.



That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I ran up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead....... I cried and cried uncontrollably and carried her for the last time from the room to the hall with tears streaming down my face and gazing at my only son, his tears rolling from his eyes, they made me cry even more. I had lost my love, my wife and a loving and caring mother and nothing I could do now to put the clock backward... I had all the time now to look at her motionless body in detail but I knew it was going to be only for a short while until she made her last journey to the Lord..... I held my son and wept again and again thinking of all the things I did not do for her when she was still alive....... & placed gently the flowers in her hands with my tears trickling on them....... she was gone forever, all my tears would not bring her back .


The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you. If you do, you might just save a marriage.

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Kamal Grover (Advocate High Court Chandigarh M:09814110005 email:adv.kamal.grover@gmail.com)     06 April 2010

I think it will not work. coz he is not a human till he realize his blood in his children and their choice of double age person.

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MORALITY is a personal issue. it cannot be taught by those who tell their clients to file false DV / 498a cases against their husbands when they file divorce petition against their wifes or even before that. so everybody of us lawyers should look to ourselves what we are and then preach Morality.lets start a debate on morality n lawyers and Lawyers and 498A


(Guest)

MORALITY is a personal issue. it cannot be taught by those who tell their clients to file false DV / 498a cases against their husbands when they file divorce petition against their wives or even before that. so everybody of us lawyers should look to ourselves what we are and then preach Morality.

Lets start a debate on morality n lawyers and Lawyers and 498A . my advice to you for bigamy is to ask this q in personal chamber and pay up u will get the best way to circumvent / bypass law.

Suchitra. S (Advocate)     07 April 2010

I think it is time that Mr. Lee post his views and end this thread instead of sending private messages with different set of facts. I am fed up with those. I know people like him have no other business to do and expect free advise for their misdeeds. Let them face the consequences. Enough of advises. As suggested by learned members, it is better to stop this thread.

Suchitra. S (Advocate)     07 April 2010

@ Mahadev Sir, 

 

Sir, I had sent that mail ONLY to the people who understands and respect  the value of relationships. It is useless for animals.  :)


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