I differ to all the above half backed opinions expressed by various writers.
Marital counseling is performed by a mental health professional and involves therapeutic analysis and insights. Family Court Acts promulgate first process to follow to diffuse couple before the Court is via Marital Counseling to see if couple before Court can be patched up. This process is very useful to many couples at their down times in their marriage. Family Court has paid volunteers out of its own budgets acting as Marital Counselors mostly such young professionals from social science and related fields are called and even well established mature professionals are also called to sit within Family Court complex and provide marital counseling to sent parties in under 90 days.
Marital Mediation (Marriage Mediation) is a practical method that relies on various dispute resolution techniques. Marital Mediation (Marriage Mediation) can also be used to heal a marriage in the case of property rights, infidelity and problems with children such as custody and or illegitimcy cause based. It can also be used to address typical conflicts that arises from time to time in all marriages. On its own motion or based on specific plea of both parties or even seeing either couple flinting inclination before a Family Court the couple could be sent to Marital mediation. This is also a process which Family Court adopts under its wide power of making its own Rules. Here the mediators are paid by the State as part of performing their social obligation in larger public interest and such offices can be situated outside Family Court complex or in adjoining District Court complex.
There are occasions when Marital Mediation is even performed by an Advocate, in such instances the couple can be assisted by legal-based knowledge and options they have and either pull back from their extreme stand taken to end their marriage or may contest in right direction amicably to part with is what advocate end up performing as neutral marital mediators Role.
In my opinion the person you are naming as Marital Counselor before whom you were sent is in-competent professional. There is nothing called on first date I will observe you and next date I will tell one spouse to shut up and observe other and on next date the other one will shut up and I will still keep on observing!. From day one after joint and/or respective listening of couples issues s/he chalks a clear strategy for this day as well as next dates under opinion then and there epxressed to couples. Here S/he wants to simply take advantage of 90 days maximum period as per Law by calling no. of times the couple in question just to hear how better they say their grievances this date and the next date and then on another next date is what seems to be happening otherwise you would not have said what you expressed in your last three words.
Now if you like that your marriage should work then put a Taken on Board application on nearest working day of Family Court and there make a reasoned plea before Family Court PJ / APJ that your main purpose to agree to offer yourself to Marital Counseling was to see words of wisdom from counselors mouth from day 1 whereas the counselor seems to be enjoying Om Mani Padme Hum (silence) more than anything else and instead of wasting your time and youth for next 90 days, either close it or send me/us to a more competent Counselor who is capable to give some pointers as wisdom to both of us on each dates – simple and straightforward way all these things work. Reason being either of you has paid Rs. 23/- court fee to run a divorce case and the moment even .75 paise Court Fees is affixed to any Application in Court records you become consumer of the Court. As a consumer you can always agitate on deficiency of such services at first available opportunity that is how people performs and shall perform from day 1 PERIOD.