Wife having a relationship

Your wife cannot get any compensation infact if she leaves your child with you then she will be responsible to take care of ur children's expense until age of 18 years. Now since ur wife has committed adultery your first move should be child custody immediately so that you get good hold of ur kids when it comes to custody. Try to gather evidence that shows that due to your wife's behavior ur kids are suffering and they cannot grow in that kind of environment if she goes and marry with dentist. As far as divorce and remarry is concerned dentist is also committing adultery. The law is very simple the party who is at fault has to bear expenses. You should immediately hire a good lawyer in U.S. and make the first move trust me ur wife will go through hell. If she makes first move  then she can also obtain restraining orders on you or vice versa. So try to act wise do not think by your heart anymore if she says she will marry that guy then she will and you should not wait until it's too late.

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All you can do is play the mind game . Try seeking a transfer elsewhere and try to take the kids along with you as you love them maybe to a different country minus your wife .love is a matter of reciprocation . Why stay with a wife who does not even care or love you . Keep hold of the love letters / Emails exchanged by your wife and it would come of use at a latter stage . Meanwhile consult a good advocate and discuss your case with him .

Collect evidence of adultery, love letters emails call recods, text messages etc, try getting a private detective on board to follow and get video capture of her meeting him.

Talk it out.  Dont tell her that youve gathered evidence.

If she is very adamant on leaving you, let her, file divorce, she wont get a penny from you!

Paul...Forget the legal remedies that are available for a while...Something's not right, 10 years of relation and a recent affair. Have you tried to figure out to why has she taken such a step?...What is she deriving there?...Is the dentist based in India...?

You need to see a counsellor who can devise ways for you to save your marriage...

You will always have the divorce option open in case nothing works out...

Regards

Chetan(dot)7679(at)gmail(dot)com

Thanks for the detail explanation. The Dantist is in India ( Orissa) and I am in USA with my wife and kids .. My wife was in India for 3 months last year during Jul-Aug and that time only she met the dantist while doing her dental treatment ....

The dentist called US number several times and for that I have the phone logs .. Also they used to do voice chat on Skype and sent about 600 mails .. I do not have any proof of that ..the Dentist also met her while she was at Kolkata..but do not proof with me ...

My wife's parents are in my support and they do not want the divorce to happen. The doctor is looking for oppty to marry her get good compensation also.. My wife keep saying u can't prove my adultery...I do have the iPod that was given to her by the dentist.. she is not taking care of the kids also but using them for compensation ground and threating me to take them away from me ..

Please suggest if I should file a legal separtaion in USA as the kids are US citizens. Her parents suggested me to leave her at their place and they will do councelling ....  I am in dupuation from India and I am still Indian citizen ..I need to go back to India sometime end of this year ...shall I plan to go India sooner along with the family ...

Also someone suggested me to lodge a complaint againt police in India againt the dentist ... will that be helpful.

Regards

Paul

Thanks Chetan ...

I think the problem is she has not got love and care from childhood..and she feel she was neglected in married life ..Now when I am trying to do things she is not accepting ..she is always quoting her past .. she always has the tendency to find faults in me ... She wants her all the freedom but when I ask her to stop contact with the guy ..she is not doing that ...

She thinks she is in obsessive love with the guy ..Do you think concelling will help for long term fix ..or she can be good for sometime and then again will change ...

Her parents and no relative suppot her move ..infact she has been fighting with everyone ....She trust the guy very much even though we told so many negative things about the guy but she does not beleive ..even including the dentist other affairs ...I am not sure if she is going through obsession