Hi, I am a NRI and married tro an Indian wife since 8 months. Everything was fine until about a month. However problems erupted since then and relationship was not cordial. Currently my wife has flown back to India but sheshe thretened me with Divorce while leaving. I tried a lot to persuade her but she just flew back. I contacted her parents and they have erupted on me declaring I am the cause of all problems. I do understand mistakes happen both ways but I never imagined that things would go to divorce. My parents never interfered in our marital life. They were in India. Now my wife and her parents have gone berserk and are threatening me. They know that their daughter was wrong but are supporting her insterad of admitting their mistakes. I came to know that she is in the process of filing divorce. What should I do ? I need to save this marriage.......I tried hard to settle but in vain. Can somebody guide me ??????????????
@ Ash i am also victim of same as you are one thing i would like to advise you is do not fly to india until this is done............she might file fake 498(a) & DV against you.........if they are threatening you then definately they are going to file Crpc 125 against you.......it won't be divorce petition infact she will claim maintenance ! So be careful before you fly india....do not go by her words.....trust me bro i have learned this harder way
They are threatening me that I am the cause of all problems and that I should sort out these problems.
However they are so adamant that they do not talk with respect do not pick up calls instantly. I am trying my best to keepup with marriage. I fail to understand why are they not botered about our Indian society and things getting difficult for their daughter after divorce. ?
1. Just give her and her family some space. If they want to send their daughter to you , they will do so. If they want their daughter to teach you a lesten they will do that too. You can stop them unless you show your bank balance which is other matter.
2. Just keep sending her some money regularly for her upkeep. Send her also a regd. A/d letter to come back to matrimonial home without any emotional paras but a simple command letter from a husband written to a wife !
3. Indian marriages are no more sacred and for up keep for decades, the sooner you learn these the faster you will concentrate on your work and look after yoru parents.
Rest choice is yours as there is nothing legal in your questions to make a detailed step by step reply.
@ Ash if you want to save your marriage please follow experts advise here they are here to advise you but choice is yours..........if you are thinking to fight this case then try to collect as much as evidence to prove yourself that you have not neglected your wife it was her decision to do so.............when it comes to execution in U.S. "YOU ARE SAFE" there is no way they are going to harm you in U.S. unless you fly india.....burden lies on your wife if she files Crpc 125 against you.....so make sure remember do not ask you parents or brothers or sisters to fly india until this is wrapped up..........trust me it's all about money !
@ Ash wonderful advise given by Tajobsindia..........if you want you can do so.........." Indian marriages are no more sacred and for up keep for decades, the sooner you learn these the faster you will concentrate on your work and look after your parents"
Thanks a lot TajobsIndia and Victim for you advise. I will first try to make efforts to save my marriage. If it does'nt work then I have no option but to fight. I have now asked my brothers family not to fly to India and will take that precaution.