Legal separation

What is this life if full of care; we have no time to stand and stare.

Thanks for responding... Please dont dismiss this as a case of 7 yrs itch!! here is a brief of what it has been like all along.. 1> He never trusted from the time of marriage and used to keep checking my cell for call details and incase there was any wrong calls that landed on my number he would immediately start bashing me up 2> He ordered me to keep my phone switched off and to only message him once in the morning and once in the evening whether my one year old daughter ate and slept....I was not allowed to contact my family 3> When my parents came to our house for my daughters 1st birthday he treated them with disregard and they left without a word 4> He was working in UK shift in a mnc and slowly started to come home late (3am sometimes 4am) when I ask him he would say he had meetings.....he would sit with the laptop all weekend, all night and one day I got up to go call him to get to bed and I realised he was looking at pics of nude women.... 5> I pretended I hadnt seen anything and asked him why he was coming to bed late, he would say he would say he had work and had to send emails...and that I should stop asking these questions 6> One day, a call landed on his cell with the name sharon and immediately the look on his face changed and he began to sweat... 7> After 2 days around teh same time a call landed with the name shankar and again he began to feel uneasy and didnt take the call.. 8> I knew there was something going on...one day when he was in the shower I quickly checked his office phone and to my horror read a series of texts to and fro from shankar (sharon) it appeared that she had lost her job in his office and was using him to get another job and i dont know what the link with him was before she lost the job 9> Few days after this he began to find reasons to beat me and abuse me regularly 10> My parents were wondering why i was not calling them and i used to take my neighbours cell and call my sister and update her and even asked my sister to check the number from which he was getting calls to confirm it was sharon and not shankar with whom he has exchanged dirty pics..... 11> One day, i read a sms on his phone that he was planning to meet her on a sunday evening... he was restless all morning and by afternoon told me he had to go to office and left in the evening...returned by 8:30pm sat in front of the laptop till very late... 12> I was just making up mind as to what I should do and that night he came back and picked a fight with me and started to kick me around...i decided it was enough and I left to my parents house the next day while he was away at office 13> my parents and others got very anxious and we filed a complaint with the local police stn.... ultimately he gave a verbal assurance tht he would stop everything and took me back 14> He allowed me to see and speak to my family but they were not allowed to come to my house....from the date of marriage till today none of my relatives have visited me 15> He stopped me from working and had to sit idle in the house... 16> He stopped attending any functions in my house or my relatives....but i had to attend every petty thing in his house or his friends house 17> He bought a pug (female) and whenever we had to go out of town I used to leave her in my mom's place and they would look after her till I return 18> He stopped talking to my parents and siblings 4yrs ago and disrespects them in front of thers..... 19> last sunday he asked me to leave the dog at my mom's place I decided that my parents are not his handmaids to look after his dog and told him that they are unable to lookafter as she is very arrogant and disobedient with them and has caused a lot of damaged to the furniture there......he told me i should stop talking to them and stop going to their house he also instructed my daughter to stop talking to them as he doesnt like them!! He works in a prestigious university in TN as a HR ast dir and come home in the weekend..... I am not wanting to go for divorce becoz i cannot see my parents but becoz i want to be treated with dignity and want to do away with his dictatorship.... He is a monster and would beat me with his slippers in front of my daughter.....he always tells me tht if I ever plan to take her away from him he will kill her as she belongs to him and should always be with him!! Even now, when he comes here for the weekend he stays up till 2 in the morning with the laptop when i ask him he says he doesnt get time to browse the web due to work on the other days and would log in to facebook first thing in the morning..... He will not allow any elders from the family circle to sit for a discussion and to counsel him I dont want my daughter to be attacked let her be with him I only want to visit her when i want to ..... Thanks..........

Thanks again...

I wish he was man enough to get counselled. According to him , he knows everything and everybody else is a fool..

A wife is nothing but a servant- to cook, clean and serve no asking questions whatsoever. She has to blindly submit to him and follow him even if he is blind and is falling into a ditch!!

His attitude is having a very negative impact on our daughter. She is confused whether she is supposed to be good to others or hate others like him and if its okay to hurt everyone verbally and be abusive to one and all.....