Rajesh Kumar (Advocate) 20 March 2008

Is Marriage an Outdated Institution?

On this forum and at all the place we hear sad stories of women in marital relationship. We hear as to their plight in the marital home and the trauma they describe- if true in even fraction of cases is heart rendering.

On the other hand there are numerous men who alleges that legal protection given to the women under indian laws are largely misused and abused in order to settle marital dispute and sometimes in order to extort money or property from the in laws. As it has been experienced in various developed society, people say that for a women getting divorce is the easiest method of getting rich.

If these allegations from both side is true, why do people marry? Has marriage become and outdated institution? Should society be looking at some other institution at the place of marriage?

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sreekumar (lawyer) 20 March 2008

Never, Marriage is really very sacred systemfor a relation between man and woman and that should be uphold with all respects. Western culture shall not be allowed to creep into our culture .

Rajesh Kumar (Advocate) 23 March 2008

There is no doubt that marriage is very secred- but human civilisation is known to make very secred institution of the past outdated. Devine authority of king was secred at some point of time- it is outdated. The dictates of church were secred at some point of time- no more. In fact spoken words were secred (remember Bhishma, or Ramayan- pran jaye par bachan na jayee)- it is not secred now. Only those institution survives who serve the welfare of humanity- marriage has served for a long time. The question is can it continue to serve in future? The comment on western culture is not logical- from where do we get the cherished ideal of liberty, equality, natioanality or even democracy. From where most part of our constitution has been borrowed? We use the scientific invention of the western world easily- like internet. Why be afraid of west or its ideas?

Shree. ( Advocate.) 24 March 2008

From olden days people said Marriages have been made in Heaven.But at nowadays many marriages makes the people to go heaven,because of change in our customs and traditions.Many problems nowadays arise due to major misunderstandings and some few due to increase of police women and female advocates.Normally in more cases certain female advocates(not overall) mislead their clients by giving wrong asurances and motivate to challenge the husbands in the court of law for simple and unneccessary things.It have repadily increased in recent past.So the exact out come of this issue is due to women policestations threatening and making the males to them to seperate from their wives.The act done onbehalf of the few female lawyers and women polices are one of the strong reason for todays tragedy for failure of more marriages.so marriage hasnot become an outstated institution, but the same time after filing the suit many outside compromise have been made to reunite the couples during the pendancy of the case.

Rajesh Kumar (Advocate) 24 March 2008

The institution is based on compromise of interest between man and women. With the technological advancement the need of that compromise is reducing (sociological argument). On the legal front we see that there are various duties imposed on the man like maintenance of wife, scapegoat in the name of dowry. In fact, even the relative of husband has duty to maintain wife (father of husband) and an obligation to go to jail when a false case is lodged. It is frightening not only to become a husband- but even when your relative is getting married maintain distance. Wives can throw you out of your house on a mere complaint of domestic violence. Then can claim your salary, as per certain directions of state governments. Divorce is regarded as the easiest way to get rich in many developed country. Wives have all the rights, I was just thinking if there is any duty of wife- and any provision of law through which such duty can be enforced by the husband.

Rajesh Kumar (Advocate) 26 March 2008

I find some intresting site on the issue. www.nomarriage.com is an intresting site as to why american man should not get married. The language is slightly offensive, but the research done is great. A good site, although not "gentlemanly". www.498a.org is a good site related to abuse of laws by women, the same laws which was enacted for their protection. Many distressing stories. Once you read them, you will never marry. There are many other sites on the issue.

rajkumar (advocate) 26 March 2008

we will get what we deserve we are responsible for our hell and heaven we shall not be self centered be patient to share the thouhts of spouse keep the thouht of divorce as a legal sin

Rajesh Kumar (Advocate) 26 March 2008

why not keep thoughts of all bad things as sin- this world will be heaven. Alas! it doesnt happen.

satish verma (service) 27 March 2008

Marriage can never be an outdated institution for our country. We are passing through a critical phase due to the impact of globalisation and so we have become suspicious towards the institution of marriage. No doubt there is craze for live in relationship but it can never take the place of marriage. We can consider it as a storm for our society which will vanish with the lapse of time. It has to be accepted as a challenge and there is nothing to be pessimist. The present threat to the institution of marriage can be obviated by counselling at Pre, post and Extra marital stage of men and women. Thanks

Known (B) 06 April 2008

I think the divorce proceedings in court are outdated. I am for instant divorce if either spouse approaches court.

Rajesh Kumar (Advocate) 26 April 2008

That is a great idea. The divorce must be instantaneous. If a party to marriage is not willing to be in matrimony with his spouce for any reason- no court or law can or should force that party to live in marriage. Marriage is a contract (law will take some time to accept this position) and every party of the contract has every right to repudiate a contract.

Manikyamba (Lecturer ) 26 April 2008

If once entered Court, either of spouse should remember to protect the dignity of the other, and should not expose their marrital /private life to the society. This is my request for all as Marital life is a sweet relation that has to be protected. And i plead Advocates not to try to add masala to the details narated by their clients to make case stronger insted, help them in Counciling

Rajesh Kumar (Advocate) 26 April 2008

Advocates cannot do anything- they appear for clients and it is duty of every advocate to protect the interest of his clients. Further, as representative of their clients, they are duty bound to state in the court of law the points his/her client want to raise. They cannot act as moral guardians of their clients.

Rajesh Kumar (Advocate) 02 May 2008

Salman Rushdie also thinks that marriage is an outdated institution. With four broken marriages under his belt, Sir Salman Rushdie now thinks that the very institution is not 'necessary'. The celebrated author split with his fourth wife, Top Chef host Padma Lakshmi, last year, and he tells Elle Magazine that the only reason women get married, is because they want to wear a wedding dress. "It's strange, given that I've been married four times, but I actually don't think marriage is necessary," the Telegraph quoted him, as saying in the interview to writer Kathy Lette. "Girls like it, especially if they've never been married before - it's the dress. Girls want a wedding, they don't want a marriage. If only you could have weddings without marriages." Marrying for dress- rediculous.