|Originally posted by : Snavi
||See Mr. raj Malhotra how can you say that we are the culprits without knowing the original facts. We are not staying with our son, we stay 700 km away from him. My husband is 75 yrs old and I am 68. Both of us worked in a University and led a prestigious life. Dont make joke using word like the mother of a great divorcee son. To us divorce is a sore. We never get involved in the personal matter of our son even I am posting in your site without even knowning him. One of my friend suggested this to me and really got lots of valuable suggestions. If cant take the matter sympathitically just dont suggest anything. We dont need suggestions from someone who can make such inhuman remarks to elderly people.
That is what the problem is with you parents.
You are teachers/professors who are retired now.
Teachers and professors have high ego. This ego comes from that moment you enter into a classroom full of students, your discretionary power to award marks, so on and so forth. From the day you joined service to the day you retire and the day till you are alive most of them would be addressing you saar sirr, mam, maam, madumm, madammm etc. This give some more boost to your ego. Some will address you as madam sahib, proffessor sahib. These are all ego boosters. With ego bigger than your noses, you both husband and wife have totally forgot to teach your son basic rule of marriage, which is to adjust with each other.
If wife does not adjust with husband, husband has to adjust with wife (if the marriage should survive).
Once already your son has failed, this is supplementary exam that he has given, this also he did not appear and is about to fail? This is no college exam or some school test. It is life test.
Here once you fail, second chance only few people get. In second chance one should not screw up. Ask your son as I have suggested to go to his wife, whenever he can and cajole her and try to build relationship with her.
Getting divorce second time is almost impossible for your divorcee son. Please bear this advice in miind.
My words might be harsh. You might have been professor all your life, but this time I am teacher and you are seeking advice. I have given advice to you. Ask your son to follow it. Or else it be too late shortly.