Rohan 12 October 2016

How to save my parents hard earned money ,going as streedhan

We stay in joint family with my parents..My wife left home n now claims streedhan before filing for mutual consent divorce..her streedhan is with us.it includes all jewellery given to her by us(her in-laws).she only has marriage photographs with her wearing that jewellery..Pls advice how can I prevent her taking that even though she's wearing then in the pictures.. 1.Cant I say they all belong to my mom ,and were given to her for marriage .shld I have some proof like some random photos of my mom wearing those jewellery items . 2.If we have bills of having purchased the jewellery,then does it all still go to her since shes wearing them in photos,or showing bills can help us retain them as ours. 3.Can I just straight away deny that we don't hve anything ,since shes taken all of it with her when she left..in that case does she have to prove that it's with us or we have to prove she s taken it all. 4.A separate Q.In mutual consent divorce,during settlement talks between both parties with both lawyers also present, when her lawyer listens to our discussion tht we got her streedhan, and unluckily if a divorce case is filed later wherein we deny having any of her streedhan, will her lawyers statement that we have her streedhan(since she heard us discussing earlier that we have it) stand as a evidence,she being a 3rd party??

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A walk alone (-) 12 October 2016

As your mother has given her now legally its her property. The gifts she get from in-laws side is also counts in streedhan. You should return them. But if you don't want do one thing in police investigation and in court say that she has taken them with her. You should never try to claim via bills that the jewelry is of your mother. Let her prove that you jewelry is with you. If she wants jewelry she has to prove they are with you. But stick on one sentence that she has taken jewelry. Never say in front of anyone that you have them. And ask your mother to keep that jewelry in your relative house so that police if investigate your house will not find them. And also ask your mother not to wear jewelry for sometime. Once you got divorce this matter will automatically go in cool bag.

Rohan 13 October 2016

Thanx to both for ur kind advice..We have 2 small jewellery items from her parents side with us which I wld be glad to give it to her,but none of our given jewellery.. In the notice her lawyer sent me at first ,she mentions we have all her enlisted streedhan items in our forceful custody to which my lawyer replied in negative since she only listed those items given by my parents to her.Now during the settlememt meeting ,with her lawyer sitng by her side,that time when me n my wife r discussing that she only take her parents given jewellery and leave our given jewellery to us,that time her lawyer would hear us and easily make out that we do have her streedhan ,,and then suppose my wife is also asking for jewellery given by us to her, n we refuse that jewellery n the matter goes to court,in tht case her lawyer having come to know tht we got her streedhan,can her lawyers statement ,sayng she heard our talks tht we do indeed have her streedhan ,be given any value n weightage against me?? Also what shld my strategy and approach be to talk to my wife ,who will be with her lawyer,during the settlement meet,with my lawyer havng alrdy replied to them tht we don't have her claimed streedhan (a long list mentioning only jewellery given by us,,none given by her parents),such that she gets the point that we have no issues to give her parents given jewels ,maybe even a item also from our given jewellery,but not more than that...