all depends on what you want out of this relation.do u want to live with him or separate?if u want to be separated,u have come to the right place.if not,please meet a marriage counsellor with your husband.
u r saying repeatedly that u dont like his family/relatives.but u want respect for your own parents.r u not being selfish here?if u want respect for yourself and your parents,first learn to give respect to his family.as i can understand,the dispute is not becoz there's any problem b/w you 2,but because of your parents!
u have not mentioned that his relatives or family harass u.still u say u dont like them!!!
ur hubby disrespected your family when he came to know that you dont like his family.....so do u expect your husband to be like god,when you are not a goddess yourself?
if those old SMS of girls were before marriage,u shud ignore them.but if he has any relations after marriage,then u r right in complaining against him.
he's sending ur belongings since he's unsure if u r returning....
and i am unsure what advice u r seeking here...a marriage advice or a divorce advice???
so i say again...go to a marriage counsellor with him..
all the best!!