FEAR
When we are afraid of something we can actually attract it to ourselves.
We can even become what we fear.
How many times have we been frightened of something
only to find that our worries were for naught.
Consider this definition:
FEAR=FALSE EXPECTATIONS APPEARING REAL.
Nothing furthers our souls' growth more than overcoming our fears.
Meet fear with love and trust and it will disappear.
Info; https://laboroflovedoula.blogspot.com/2011/01/fear-how-do-you-face-it.html
(This blog is the ramblings of a 53 year old woman who has a lot to still learn about life and plans to stick around to learn it!
She said ,"I am a woman, wife, mother, grandmother, educator and doula... I have lost both my parents in the last eight years... both a breast and skin cancer survivor...and understand what being a survivor means in many ways.")
I see women who face their fears regarding birth all the time. And I see women who refuse to either acknowledge their fear or do not want to discuss it at all prior to their births, and then the fear rushes in when their labor begins and paralyzes them! The law of attraction is something we have heard a lot about good things- but I do believe "when we are afraid of something we can actually attract it to ourselves." Sometimes we are afraid but we refuse to say it- or acknowledge it or share it with someone who could help us deal with the fears. And somehow we think that the fear we have will disseminate and not become real but our internal voice is repeating that fear over and over and over and over. We become that which we speak to ourselves about internally.
I think it is healthy to acknowledge and face our fears.Pam
Let's look at what fear actually is. It is usually speculation in the most negative way... without reality even being a part of it often times. "FEAR=FALSE EXPECTATIONS APPEARING REAL." Sometimes it is our intuitive voice guiding us to change some things that need to be changed in order to have a different outcome. We had a mom recently who when she shared the birth experience she desired, we offered some ideas to help her find that kind of birth experience. She felt she was paralyzed and unable to change some things that we suggested. She said, "next birth." And she was so afraid that she entered the hospital way too early. Was so afraid of so many things that she later ended up in the OR having her baby. Now I am unsure if that would not have been the way she would have birthed regardless... but fear was a huge companion during this labor. So sometimes those nagging voices that say, "change this so you can have a different outcome," are voices that are there to guide us. I do know this, if we do not face our fears they do often become reality.
How many times do we make decisions purely based on fear? "Nothing furthers our souls' growth more than overcoming our fears." Sometimes facing our fears means being proactive. For me that is why I had a bilateral mastectomy without the diagnosis of cancer. Some thought I was making a over reactive response. But the voice within me- what I consider to be the whispers of God- told me to do it! And when five days later I was told I had cancer that had not been diagnosed present in my pathology tissue, I knew I had listened well.
I listened and trusted my intuitive spirit. "Meet fear with love and trust and it will disappear." I see women prepare for their births with the trust in their care providers, the knowledge they have regarding birth from the preparation they have completed, with companions who also trust the process have births without fear. Sometimes they may end in the OR as well- but not because of fear in the process.
For me to say I do not have fears would be a lie. I do have fears but I try to face them- I try to address the things I can change to remove those fears. I do not allow it to eat away at me and therefore be more attracted to me. "Meet fear with love and trust and it will disappear."
