Hello,
I have been married since last 7 yrs and 6 months now. I have two daughters - elder one getting 5 yrs this Dec and younger one 1.5 yrs.
Financially there is a considerable difference in my and her family levels. But, I am currently working with a US based MNC subsidiary of India, earning considerably well but not too much. By this I mean that I can manage expectations financially.
Just after 6 months of our marriage, she started having issues with my family and she was not willing to adjust with them. Issues were around the lifestyle what my family used to have in lack of money (like use of Babool v/s Close-Up toothpaste etc...). I left it as well. I was lenient in initial two years for any of the mistakes keeping in mind that anybody takes time to adjust. But it never changed. With birth of my first daughter her rigidness and hatred for my family kept on increasing and probably the intention was to keep my family off. Definitely if I see all those as a human being my anger will be there. Then things kept on getting weird like
1. despite both in-laws in same city she stopped visiting my parents house
2. She is not ready to let my daughter visit my family.
3. No interest in my relatives and related functions or social relations while maintaining all on her side.
Then things more weird like -
-- On getting pregnant (unplanned) for second time, she is checking with her mother if she should keep my child or not.
-- Though she was not interested in second child and got it aborted, which was a combined decision, at last blaming it on me.
-- Once I took my daughter to my family home, she took her beating all the way back.
-- She decided to become mother for second time and didn't inform me. The only decided way for protection between us was pills. My objection to second pregnancy was considering that we need time for each other and can't go for second issue. But it was projected as other way around that I was insisting for another abortion.
-- I was bed ridden for 3 months due to backbone issue, but she never bothered to visit me neither she allowed my daughter to visit me.
Considering all this I decided to have a separated time between two of us. I am about to complete 2 yrs coming march. I have also made up my mind that this relationship can't go further as she seems to be more of a hysteria patient who is always skeptical about our relation, ppl trying to break this relation, ppl doing black magic, I might be having a extra marital affair - which is all fake.
I offered her for mutual consent divorce with compensation, but now she wants a social gathering to be called before she give me divorce. I am planned to do that as well. But I am damn sure that she will not agree for that even after.
Right now I am abroad due to office assignment. My biggest worry is separation period consideration. Though she knows I am abroad and have my contact number, she might use it as a point.
Any suggestions as what can be done to counter this?
Regards,
Ramesh
