Hello Everyone ,
I would need your guidance . I am a girl working in a MNC and earning decently . I got married 2 years back and right from the day of marriage ,husband and in-laws were demanding. From a middle class family values i was determined to make my marriage a success. Husband demanded money from me through various ways . Sometimes through cash deposit into his account, sometimes paying for his car insurance ,home loans etc...He never cared for me and always left me at my parents place whenever i fell ill . Also he used to make excuses and come home very late in night around 2PM or 3PM and we did not had any love life .He always used to find out ways to extract money from me .This contiued for a couple of months until i felt a little suspicios about his behaviour with one of his cousin sister. Upon a little spying on him , found out they they both are in a affair .
Determined to fix the broken things and make the marriage work ,served him with all the love and care i had . Served by health and wealth also . When nothing changed tried speaking to my husband .He told that he dosent feel me attaractive enough and that i am fat . He was trying to break my self-confidence . However, i asked that if he was not attacted to me then why did he marry me . He had no answer to that .I am average built girl in Healthy BMI range .In no ways i am not attractive . Since i knew about his affair , i knew he is simply making excuse .
Well , after that i went to my parents place and have been living with them . Now recetnly , learnt that my mother-in-law is spreading roumours in the relatives that i have an affair , so that is why i have gone to my parents and my parents are also quite and we havent taken any action. My silence is being mis-interpreted .
He talked to my father, saying that he has some money and can go for mutual divorce. I know after the divorce , he will marry his cousin sister. I do not want to divorce him as i did not marry him for money . After spoiling my life he will marry his cousin and lead a happy life .
If i file any case of dowry/harassment on him(which happened in reality) , eventually it will lead to divrorce . else in few months he may file a case on me that i deserted him and ask for divorce . I dont want to divorce him, so that as long as i am his official wife he will not be able to marry his cousin sister .
Please advice .