Stuck up in "failed marriage". I've been posting queries since 2 years and every time got great advise from respected members. One can see how my case progressed from my past queries. This can be good reference for troubled husbands as most of the issues or wife's behaviour are common.
Recent query being Need help in false dv case On 1st May, wife created drama for no real reason (trust me she is expert in it, any normal person will not be able to do it), both parties called 100, filed complaints. On 13th May, got a call fro PS and I came to know wife filed a complaint that I put cuts on both her hands by sharp object (police just showed medical report and told what's about it). I could just see one remark "Assualt by husband" as they hardly give it for a second or two to see it. They just setteled the matter convincing both parties not to take further action.
I asked for complaint copy and medical report in RTI. The medical report copy I got is not what was shown to me. This report is by psychiatric doctor stating wife lost her mental balance as we (father and me) had a fight with her using filthy language (again wrong, I have video of the trivial fight) and in mental disbalance she herself put the cuts by blade on her hand. On 3rd May she joined me in rented accomodation. We thought now she will not get any reason to fight but being expert she kept fighting with me for trivial issues. One day she said during fight she said why don't I divorce her and pay marriage expenses and alimony, etc. In all the fights my role is to keep mouth shut. I think this provokes her more. Next day when she was normal, I asked her for mutual divorce and give me exact amount she wants but she denied.
Everytime I posted any query, it was already unbearable. All those times I wanted to go for divorce but those incidents were not "enough" for divorce so I could not proceed. But this time its extreme. Everybody's life has importance. I know my wife can stay happily at her parents home, so I want to go for divorce to safeguard her, her and my family from all this traumatic experiences and lastly myself.
Dear respected, learned members looking at the situation please answer my questions -
1. What can happen to father and me in this sucide attempt complaint (FIR filed but no action taken till now)?
2. Can I use this as mental cruelty proof and file divorce?
3. I am already bankrupt by not being able to work because of all this. Somehow managing to pay EMIs, rent, expenses, etc. I've heard that after filing divorce one has to pay "maintenance" whether he is at fault or not. My wife is highly qualified and I am just a graduate but expert programmer. She is not working now. I earn by freelancing. Can I avoid maintenance or minimise it (I don't have a fixed earning or even a regular source)?
4. Our learned lawyer told that divorce notice can't be sent if wife is staying with husband. Is it true?
Experts please post as much answers/views in this matter. People like me will definitely get much needed help from it.