MY WIFE LEFT MY HOUSE 14 MONTHS BACK . SHE WAS PREGNANT THEN. SHE LEFT CORDIALLY WITH HER FATHER ON THE PRETEXT THAT HER DELIVERY WILL TAKE PLACE AT HER PARENTS HOUSE.
SHE GAVE BIRTH TO A BABY BOY IN MAY, 2011. WHEN SHE WAS 4 MONTHS PREGNANT SHE JOINED IN SCHOOL SERVICE AS A TEACHER . HER SERVICE IS A GOVT SERVICE. SHE JOINED THE SERVICE WITHOUT DISCUSSING OR INFORMING WITH ME OR TO MY PARENTS. BUT SHE TOLD ME THAT SHE WILL LEAVE THE SERVICE ONCE HER MATERNITY LEAVE EXPIRES. BUT ONCE HER MATERNITY LEAVE EXPIRED SHE JOINED BACK TO HER SCHOOL AGAIN. THE SCHOOL IS A RESIDENTIAL SCHOOL. SHE IS STAYING AT THE SCHOOL HOSTEL WITH HER 5 MONTHS OLD BABY. SHE IS NOT READY TO RETURN BACK. SHE IS TELLING ME THAT DOING MATRIMONIAL HOUSE IS NOT NECESSITY FOR HER BUT DOING SERVICE IS NECESSITY FOR HER. SHE EVEN TOLD ME THAT IF SHE DOESNT WORK THEN SHE WILL DO INJUSTICE TO HER QUALIFICATIONS WHICH SHE GOT AFTER LOTS OF HARD WORK. BUT SHE IS FORGETTING THAT BY DOING SO DOES SHE MAKING ANY JUSTICE TO HER MARRIAGE OR TO HER MATRIMONIAL OR TO HER BABY. SHE STAYS AT THE HOSTEL. HARDLY TAKES 2 CLASSES A DAY. CAN AFFORD TO SPENT TIME FOR THE BABY. BUT DOESNT DOING ANY FAMILY DUTY AT ALL. HER SCHOOL IS JUST 8 KMS AWAY FROM HER PARENTS HOUSE. HER PARENTS HOUSE IS 368 KMS FAR AWAY FROM MY HOUSE AND IN DIFFERENT STATE. SHE WAS WORKING IN THIS SAME SCHOOL BEFORE MARRIAGE. AND SHE AGREED TO LEAVE HER JOB AFTER MARRIAGE. AS MY MARRIAGE WAS AN ARRANGE MARRIAGE , I TOLD HER THAT I WANT MY WIFE TO BE HOUSEWIFE. THAT TIME SHE AND HER PARENTS AGREED. I `M BEING DENIED THE LOVE AND AFFECTION OF MY BABY AND HE TOOO IS MISSING HIS FATHER FOR NO FAULT OF MINE AND HIS. I HAVE TOLD HER REPEATEDLY TO COME BACK TO MY HOUSE, I HAVE WROTE ATLEAST 10 LETTERS ASKING HER TO COME BACK.I ALSO TOLD HER IF SHE WISH SHE CAN DO JOB HERE. BUT SHE IS ADAMANT NOT TO LEAVE HER JOB AND ON THE JOB EXCUSE SHE CANT COME. SHE IS TELLING ME THAT SHE CANT MAINTAIN FAMILY LIFE AND SERVICE BOTH TOGETHER.AT TIMES SHE IS GIVING ME VAGUE REASONS THAT SHE WILL RETURN IF I LEAVE MY OLD PARENTS. I HAVE STRAIGHT WAY RULED OUT THAT AS ITS NOT POSSIBLE FOR ME TO LEAVE MY PARENTS. SHE AND HER PARENTS ARE TELLING ME THAT SHE WILL STAY AT THE SCHOOL HOSTEL WITH HER SERVICE AND BABY. I`L STAY AT MY HOUSE AND I HAVE TO DO THE DUTIES AS A HUSBAND AND AS A FATHER FROM MY HOUSE . BUT I`L HAVE NO RIGHTS. THEY THEMSELVES HAVE TAKEN THIS DECISION ON DUMPING ON TO ME. I DID ONE MISTAKE IS THAT I BELIEVED MY WIFE. AFTER MARRIAGE I SAW SHE WAS WRITING HER RESIGNATION LETTER. BUT I DOUBT NOW WHETHER SHE HAD SUBMITTED HER RESIGNATION THAT TIME. SHE STAYED FOR 10 MONTHS IN OUR HOUSE.
MY QUESTION IS :
1. IF SHE HAD REALLY RESIGNED THAT TIME THEN HOW COME SHE GET THE SAME SERVICE AS IT WAS A STATE GOVT SERVICE ( GOVT SCHOOL). I ASSUME THAT SHE WAS IN UNPAID LEAVE.
2. UNDER THESE CIRCUMSTNACES WHAT SHALL I DO. SHALL I FILE FOR RCR OR SHALL I FILE FOR DIVORCE STRAIGHTWAY. SHE IS NOT READY TO DIVORCE ME. MAY BE SHE MIGHT HAVE ANY AFFAIRS WITH ANY OTHER PERSON WHERE SHE IS WORKING. I DOUBT SO NOW. OTHERWISE I SEE NO POINT OF WORKING THERE. SHE COULD HAVE EASILY WORKED HERE.
3. AS SHE IS WORKING IN A GOVT SCHOOL , DOES SHE ELIGIBLE FOR ANY MAINTENANCE FROM ME? I`M READY TO PAY MAINTENANCE FOR THE BABY. CAN I GET CHILD CUSTODY AS I `M HAVING MY OWN HOUSE. BUT MY BABY IS STAYING AT THE SCHOOL HOSTEL WHICH IS NOT AN IDEAL PLACE FOR HIM. HE IS BEING DEPRIVED OF THE LOVE NOT ONLY FROM ME , BUT FROM HIS GRANDPARENTS, AND OTHER RELATIVES OF MINE.
PLEASE ADVICE.
