Well after S. 498 A IPC FIR and bails and or after your wife files a Divorce suit and or your wife files a S. 125 CrPC suit, Dv Act, now what to do in life?
Scenario 1: If you have a job / business?
You are the luckiest as you will be back on track, professionally and financially so soon. You will leave early and come back late night chasing company targets and job responsibilities and have very less worry as for the next 2 yrs. as things will move extremely slowly before the trial picks up and judge will give you 3 to 4 months date, so u need to go just 3 to 4 times in a year to the court, in-laws will get fed up seeing no and/or slow progress in Indian courts, out of court settlement talks will start and since you have money, you may decide to walk out of this error of early youth fast so that you can focus on your career and start a new life.
Scenario 2: If you have no job, business and no money?
You will have all the time in the world to observe and learn things like –
(i) Visit various parks in your city as you have all the time in the world to sit
(ii) Gaze stars at night and wonder why this happened to you. Become
(iii) Go for long walks, jogging to get you in shape.
(iv) Visit court on every date and pick up the system of court working.
(v) Make new friends in courts, learn about law and start fighting your own
(vi) Start walking with other victims to courts and women cell.
(vii) Since you will become a sharp observer of things, you may pick up
various subjects in the court, city to improve things and pursue them to
make a change in the society or the way things function.
(viii) Start traveling to new places to get fresh, do photography.
(ix) Meet relatives, friends who have been telling you for so long to come and
stay with them.
(x) Pick up new hobbies.
(xi) Watch movies.
(xii) Learn cooking.
(xiii) Work on new ideas, innovation, do research and plan things so that
when you have money, you can take off those ventures which will be
better than a job.
(xiv) Become a visionary.
(xv) Read new books (subjects is what I mean), newspapers, start visiting
libraries, including court libraries.
(xvi) Wash clothes; clean your room and things you haven't looked at for
(xvii) Go through various moods of your life from depression to seeing
happiness in every small achievement and become a positive thinker.
(xviii) Join a cause and be its active member and lead from the front.
(xix) Improve your verbal and written communication skills.
(xx) Improve your negotiation skills as you have no money.
(xxi) Make new friends as old ones won't come near you.
(xxii) Visit Gurdwaras, temple, churches, mosques and develop faith in God .
(xxiii) Develop tremendous self - confidence.
(xxiv) Start meeting top police officials, judges, lawyers and learn how to handle
them. Well these are achieved by filing RTI on various causes whose report
you have built-up from above sub paras and when some of your RTI’s are
in appellate stage you are bound to meet top big-wigs at different Govt.
Nutshell is, Indian Matrimonial (Family Law) teaches you to become a SURVIVOR for life like there is a Japanese saying
Give a man a fish when hungry and he lives for that day.
Teach him how to fish
And he survives for life.
S. 498 A IPC pushes you to the most difficult circumstances and inhospitable
environment, but in the end, you learn how to be a survivor.
Also thanks to Divorce, S. 125 CrPC and or DVA wife and in-laws who gave Indian Husbands a crash course in the art of survival.
Wordings Inputs credits: Arvind
Inspiration source: Power of One, By Bryce Courtenay, 1989