Seeking divorce from non agrying spouse

Originally posted by : Amit
	i am married since 7 years, married in 2006 have two issues, boy(2) gal (6). marrigage was love come arrange. both babies were born at wife's home town despite my and parennt's request to deliver in my hometown. There was incompatibility issues before marriage but they started surfacing in last 2  years we started quareling, incompatibility, doubting, and trust was broken down, she was doubting since last 3- 4 years and i pacified her also but things diddn't change much. Since last 1 year iam living seperately in my fathers house on first floor and she lives on ground floor.  I asked about divorce from my wife since we are not compatible and there are other reasons. My parents said said that you chosen her and now you have to maintain and try to adjust if not then and are against divorce,  i am of the view that i cannot go on like this for whole of my life and childrens are already witness to our estarannged relation. The will have bad view for rest of life if their parents behave the way (i.e. not talking, not living together, total cutoff without divorce) Can love marriage cannot meet a divorce end? after all love marriage is also marriage, incompatibility , quarrels doubts may arise in any marriage and if they happen to be on daily then one should think of parting than to be part of any criminal news. Iam  Currently living in own room not with Wife.    i have soughted divorce from her but she is not agreeing to it. Iam ready to pay alimony, maintenance   to take her and children needs. can i file a case of divorce?, can living alone (for 1 year) will help in getting divorce?

Your parents are correct.

If you did not have that much capacity to tolerate your lover no matter what the reason it is, you should not have gotten love marriage.

It will be like you used and threw her away that too after having 2 kids from the marriage.

You better try and adjust yourself with your wife, and just try to think was it really love in the first place or was it just pounding s*xual urges which led you to marry her???

Litigation process very long.  Contested divorce [5-6 years] if she files false cases on you and your parents [5-6 years], custody case of children/visitation rights [4--5 years], + you will have to cough out money [pay alimony to her until she remarries, and to the kids until they reach adulthood age] + legal expenditure [lawyer fees].  So all in all you have good plans to keep all of the people at your home busy for the next 10-15 years roaming to court halls.  Good Luck with that !

Advice:  Just listen to what your parents have told, dont file for divorce!

And you can meet your kids, like in picnic, hi pappa, how are you.. hi beta how are you.  Your kids will literally grow in court halls, who knows good way to start a career?  They might become lawyers??? :-))

now one is forcing you to take divorce but what steps you have taken to pacify her is the main question and even court will not grant divorce on this particular issue and you will be paying maintenance and lastly the case will be dismissed as she is not interested for divorce 

1. make your children stay with you be close to them 

2. if your wife is working then take your children outside make them happy that when ever they need you be there

3. do not stress for physical relation but try to maintain relationship with your wife go to her have chat, if possible take her to film spend some time with her 

4. being a love marriage you know her very well may be she changed after marriage but some tricks you should applied before to make her happy do it now 

here i am not counselling you but telling you the truth as your parents and your wife iare against divorce so spending money in court and after 5 years th case will be dismissed so try your luck may be in this one year you may have tried but some steps were yuo only knows has to be installed to pacify her