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sukhvinder (marketing)     24 September 2013

Second wife is patient(ill or sick). what to do.

6-8 month before getting divorce from my first wife. i married with a bacholer girl with sikh rituals. after my second married i got divorce after one year.( 498a,was running).  but after getting divorce with first wife. i found that my second wife is not able to do house hold works. then i realised that she did fraud with me. now two years have been passed  to marriage but since 16 month she is doing treatment for her deseases. but i have not any doctor's documents. and i have been fate up that i am handing my house hold work with my old parents and my child. i have to do work and all house hold  work. . I also asked her to finish this relation. but she does not want..........   what to do. .......................i already have faced leagal problems with my first wife. but now i afraid to do same things again ,.......... is any simple way.............in this marriage me and my parents went and did't take any single rupee.   but to do now.............................................. they did fraud with me...............


 4 Replies

Sudhir Kumar, Advocate (Advocate)     25 September 2013

in most of the cases second marriage is a compromise

Ranee....... (NA)     25 September 2013

Your query is very confusing, you married to a girl 6/7 months before  and you say "after my second married i got divorce after one year.( 498a,was running). 

That means you married without divorce.

If so your second marriage is void ab initio and you are liable for punishment  u/s 494 that means you committed bigamy.Few days back I read a judgement here that sickness is not a ground of divorce.

Laxmi Kant Joshi (Advocate )     25 September 2013

I agree with ranee ji, only those sickness which are not curable like mental disorder,psychopathic disorder,virulent and incurable form of leprosy,general disease in a communicable form etc...are the sickness for The ground of divorce.

Mango (Consultant)     25 September 2013

On moral grounds, you should be taking care of your second wife instead of searching all her medical statements to prove that she had cheated on you. You should be supporting her on medical treatment. What you will do with her today she is going to do the same thing with you tomorrow. Noone remains young and healthy for the whole life and at the end of days, everyone need a life-partner who loves her from bottom of his/her heart... She has NOT cheated on you but she had believed that she could be able to accommodate with you with ongoing disease without having any issues. Even when the law says that it's acceptable then why you had so much issue in living with her peacefully. As you said that you haven't got any money from her, so technically speaking, you got dowry from your first wife and then what happened?


As far as the household work is concerned, you can engage some maid to do the same. She is not leaving you and that is so much honest response from this lady. She is trying her best to adjust with you and you should help her to adjust with you. You have to understand that you choose her to be better half of your life, you can't give-up on her just because she could not do some household work. If your preference was to get a better half of your life, who could do your household work then you would have married to a maid. Would that be acceptable for you?


Female are NOT object to be consumed and throw away. Your first marriage could be your ill-fated destiny but your second wife is your future, leaving her on this way would only give you more suffering in future.


As far as your parents are concern, let me ask you one thing. If you get away from second wife and then further not able to find a good bride for yourself then how your parents are going to support you and themselves? Today, cities life are fast and people should respect each other to come out from any situation.


As brotherly advice, stop thinking about negative things and focus more on future and positive things. Things are going to change one day but you have to be little more patient. Until and unless you are going to stop thinking that she had cheated on you, you won't able to respect your wife. Your wife didn't cheat on you; it's just purely coming out from your mind that she didn't tell you something so she had cheated on you. Do what helps each and everyone in your family. Do it for the sake of family not just in fear of police & court!


All the best and have a good life ahead!



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