My wife is a BE and has lost her job before marriage and she is not working right now. From the time I got married on 2nd Jan 2013, I am having a very miserable life. My wife keeps on fighting for small things with me and my family. Even a day prior to marriage she had a fight with me, looking at her aggressive and violent nature and her irrespective way of speaking to my parents, I had told my parents not to go ahead. But my patient’s told me, everything will be alright and not to worry, as things may change after marriage. Also it was not possible to take any harsh discussion at that time as all the relatives and all have turned up for marriage and we didn’t wanted to put her parents in a difficult position.
She has a very irritating nature, if things doesn’t go as per her she makes my life hell. She had fight at the honeymoon place (Kerala), native place and where ever we went. At kerala in a 5 star hotel she made a big tamasha by screaming and abusing me, even she slapped me 2 times and hurt me with her sharp nails. She even insulted me in front of my driver. Whatever I had arranged for her during honeymoon was in vain, she didn’t have any value of anything just kept on abusing me and saying “what third class trip have you arranged”. She always tells me that she may call her brother and friends to beat me and will put me behind bars. She warns me that all laws are with ladies and if she wants she will make my life hell.
At my home town she insulted me in front of my relative and shouted back at me, when I had requested her not to interfere in things which she doesn’t know related to us. But she didn’t listen. The same is continuing regularly at my home, she shouts at my parents with ugly gestures. From the time she has come home, she has not done anything which is expected from a newlywed lady. She sleeps late don’t do any homely work, nothing at all only watches TV and sleeps. When my mother expected her to do some work at home she refuses and tells to get a maid for everything. Four times till date she has been violent and regularly tells us of putting everyone behind bars. She warns us that she will kill herself or jump from the building, due to which my parents are very afraid.
All at my home are scared, all these days many a times we had called her parents and mama and told them everything. They had even taken her home 2 to 3 times to help her understand and sent her back but no change. Now her parents say let her change at your home itself, when we call them or tell them about her behavior they are not giving much attention, so we are worried a lot.
I had told her that let my parents live happily and we find some other place for our self, because of her rude behavior towards them, but she is not ready for that. She says that this is the place where my parents have sent me and I will not leave it. She fights, bangs doors, already broke windows, throws utensils. We fell very bad as all this my parents and sister had made it through lot of struggle in life.
Looking at this behavior of my wife now my parents tell me to gift the Flat back to sister, but now even the gift deed process requires lot of money. Don’t know should I go ahead with this immediately or not. As I had posted my previous question about “wife’s right on husbands property gifted by sister” on which people have replied that during the lifetime of husband she can’t claim it, but my parents doesn’t know much about laws so wants me to do this.
We are really very frustrated with everything that is happening and need some help, all this time we had taken the intermediate people during marriage to solve the issue, but actually it’s not helping.