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Found the Happiness (Enjoying)     09 February 2013

Reasons of marriage failure .. very imp..must read


Major Reasons of Marriage Failure






Dear all LCI Members:


I always believe in “precaution is better than cure”…. On this forum everyone is talking about the cure…. But let me talk about the precaution…. Below said article may not be useful for deserted people but may be useful for the people those who are fighting with their spouse and on the way to come to court, or for those who are trying to re-join or remarrying with someone.


Money, s*x, and communication are frequently cited as the most common reasons for a marriage failure. The following discussion will details some of the reasons these three topics are the top contenders for marriage failure, what can be done to avoid these issues, and how a marriage can be restored after suffering from these issues.


Question 1) - Why does money cause marriage failure?


Income levels can create difficulty in marriage. Low-income families may be greater affected than middle or high-level income families. Low-income families may not have the resources to take care of basic needs, e.g. medical costs, nutritional foods, housing, etc. This may lead to increased stress within the relationship, which can lead to increase marital discord, fighting, and ultimately may lead to dissolution of the marriage. Middle and high-income marriages may fight over spending levels, who is earning more/less money, the authority to spend the money, and whether each partner is doing his/her share. Women, in today's society, are at less financial risk than ever before. As a result, many women expect men to help with the traditional household chores. Since many men still believe this to be woman's work, the equal partnership with both partners bringing in an income, can create problems that are essentially created by money. What are some of the ways to prevent money related marriage failure?

Create financial goals - make this a joint decision. Set personal spending limits; create personal allowances in which each person has a fixed dollar amount per wk/mo that each may spend without consulting their partner. Get out of debt - destroy the credit cards - build a savings account - invest in a mutual fund - have a joint household account from which the joint expenses are paid e.g. mortgage/rent, utilities, groceries, insurance, etc. Also, have separate accounts for personal spending. What are some steps to restore a marriage suffering from money problems? Get out of debt! Create financial goals - together. Live within your means - who cares what the Jones' are buying - "find ways to temporarily increase your income" (Breslawy, 2003).

Question 2) - Why does communication cause marriage failure?

"Lack of communication/tone of voice/body stance" - not being clear in expression/not hearing what the other is saying. What are some of the ways to prevent communication related marriage failure? Establish a joint relationship with God. Acknowledge your own faults. Spend time together. Encourage and praise each other. What are some steps to restore a marriage suffering from communication problems? The same steps used to prevent marriage related communication problems can be used to restore a marriage.

Both are bound to fulfil each other’s expectations whereas both of them forgets to fulfil our partners expectation on the basis of condition “If he/she will fulfil my expectation then only I will fulfil her expectations” but they forget natures Law of Giving you are suppose to receive anything in this world only when you have already given it.

Conditional happiness – Where people say that “I will be the most happiest person if my partner will behave in such way…..bla bla bla…..” First of all you should accept that right a moment you are the most happiest person however your partner is……. If you will be internally/soulfully happy then automatically that heartful spark will reflect in your personality and your partner will magically behave as you want.”



Question 3) - How does s*x cause marriage failure?

Poor self image, poor s*xual image, inhibitions, fear of intimacy, childhood s*xual abuse, molestation, rape, lack of privacy, guilt, hectic lifestyles, stress, anxiety, depression, unforgiveness, grief, bitterness, fear, anger, hate. Lack of nons*xual intimacy, lack of s*xual intimacy, s*xual dysfunction, frustration, disappointment, poor communication, lack of knowledge about s*xuality, lack of trust, betrayal, adultery, lack of respect, abuse, manipulation, selfishness, boredom. Medical conditions, medication affects, medical treatments and drugs, hormones, exhaustion, Painful s*x. Depending on the cause of the problem, the steps to resolve the issues may include the following - some problems may require the assistance of trained medical professional, therapists, etc.

S*x is the best gift offered by God to human beings but because of false dramatic fake picture spreaded  by po*nographic industry which makes bad impact on society. The things shown in po*nographic movies has nothing to do with the reality.. As we all know reality is not like that …. The fake extremeness, screaming, yelling, exchanging, grouping, strange positions, unfair extreme acts, long (drugs/medicine effect) stamina, etc. whatever po*nstar does on set is what he also never do in his real life s*s, whatever the po*nstar doing in front of camera is just their professionalism for money not reality. But the impact of this is very high on society. The people starts experimenting such things for more enjoyment…. And their s*xual life disturbs ……Actually everyone should know what s*xologists are suggesting for healthy s*xual marital life “You should do what is naturally you should do… do not add any fake masala in it”. …. Remember to have healthy relationship you have to maintain good harmony between personal as wel as s*xual life.


Hope this may help you….

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Msk-need -nuetral- laws (self)     09 February 2013

some sensible thought..

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