I am Nuram. I have got some serious problems going on in my life. I was just googgling and found this site and loved this. Thought of posting my problems here and get some valuable suggestions.
It's me during 2010 Jan met a girl and loved her a lot. I went and told my mom and showed her the pic. My mom liked her and i was very happy with it.
After couple of months i came to know that she is also keeping an eye on me. mar 2012 it was the day we met and fell in love. I loved her a lot for about a year and then our marriage was fixed on Mar 2012. Till this moment everything was fine.
She is short tempered and I was ok with it. Never felt it as a problem. I always thought that it was her nature. I always thought that I am lucky to have her in my life.
Tragedy started just 2 weeks before the marriage after all the arrangements were done. She started acting weird even for small small problems. She started losing her temper often and started acting weird. She just used to blast the words out of her mouth inspite of looking around and won’t even care who is standing near her. This worried me a lot.
I kept silence and marriage happened. The day after marriage happened she started again getting angry. I asked her what's wrong. She said that I am not ready to register the marriage legally. So I have done it the very next day. She kept silent for some days.
One night, she asked me a question funnily... 'You wouldn't have got any beautiful women than me!!' I funnily replied 'yeah I have many options' in a jolly note. She started again acting totally mad... She slapped me and went out of control. I was not able to do anything. I tried to cool her and was not able to because she was attacking me whenever I go near her to chill her out. After some time, she left me in bedroom locked and went to living room. I was completely scared.
Morning, I went to the living room and got shocked!!!
All the gifts I gave her went into pieces and were lying in the floor. My god, I don’t know how she managed to break even a ceramic toy. Doll and everything was completely gone. I was really very shocked about her strange behaviour. I informed her parents about this and they advised her. This problem came to an end.
After a week one day, she called me for a shopping. I told her to wait for 30 mins. Again a strange reaction. I got panic. Just wanted to know where this ends. I stuck to my decision and told her to wait for 30 mins repeatedly. Ohhh god.... She came to me, pulled me out of home and shut the door. All the neighbours watched including my mom.
The same day night, she remained silent. I was under full stress.
All of sudden she started crying and lay down on floor. I tried asking her what the problem is. She remained silent and was nearly unconscious. After 10 mins, she woke up and asked me 'Where am I?' I was puzzled. This is not ending here. I was already frustrated to the core. After 30 mins, she went inside the kitchen. I was sitting in living room. Heard some noise and went inside the kitchen and found that she took a knife. All of a sudden she asked me 'Shall i cut my veins'. She indeed attempted. I rushed and pulled the knife out of her hands and pulled her inside bed room and kept on looking her whole night.
Next morning, I called her parents and sent her with them. I have told them to counsel her and also added that i am ready to co-operate in any way.
I am now afraid of being with her, keeping in mind what will happen when.
Months passed. I didn’t hear back anything. I tried contacting them and they were not reachable. I tried calling her dad and there is no response from him either. One day, I and my mom went to her home. It’s just a surprise visit. We had another shock there. My MIL didn’t allow my mom to enter home. Finally, my mom waited outside and I had a conversation with my MIL. I started recording the conversation and the following have been recorded.
- Twice threw off the mangal sutra.
- Her mom accepted that her daughter took the knife and she also claimed that it is right.
- Her mom told that her daughter is no more interested in living with me.
- She also said that I betrayed her life. ( I don’t know how!!!)
- Recording also holds that I never expected any dowry.
After 2 weeks from the conversation with her mother, I called her to know how she was feeling and got that recorded as well. She clearly told that she is not ready to live with me anymore.
Recently, couple of weeks back again I had a conversation with her to know what plan she has. She said she need compensation. I told that I’ll discuss with parents and get back. After a while, I got a call from her again and she added that she doesn’t need any compensation at all. She said she doesn’t need my money.
Now the most frustrated thing is neither they are coming with a solution, nor they are responding. I contacted a lawyer and he suggested me to be silent till one year completion. I am in a confused mind of what to do next.
After so many happenings, I made my mind that I am not going to accept her again at any ways. Need your suggestion on how to proceed further. Do I have to take any action now or shall I wait for them to come back?
Pals, Any solution from your side will be really helpful to me.