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Husband filed for divorce but im not interested

I got married on 2014 and lived with my husband separately in abroad for about 6 months during that period my husband took well care of me, daily i will speak to my in laws during day time, to me they will speak like as they are the no.1 good in laws so i was attracted by their words, his working time is 12 hrs so i have to be all alone in a small room, daily after coming from work he will go to balcony and used to speak with his mom and 2 sisters more than 1 hr and then come back for dinner, till the moment he makes call he will behave good to me, he always used to share our photos in whats app to his sister the day he sent his photos at that night while my husband speaks to his mom( don't know what his mom and sisters will say) he will not speak to me well if i ask reason he will beat me badly and scold me in vulgar words due to pain i will go and lock the bathroom, even once i went out of the room he forcefully pinch and pulls me in, the next morning he behaves well and asks sorry for the last night behavior also applies ointment for the wound he created and this continues till 6 months.

when we came to know about my pregnancy my in law didn't speak to me over phone well( my sister in law who got married before me didn't conceive) even my husband beat me like beast due to this blood shed on mouth on that day for not letting know my in law about pregnancy( i tried before my husband but my in law didn't attend ). Due to this i threatened suicide that my husband should not speak to their family, i didnt inform this to my parents since they will get hurt as i was 3 months pregnant we came to india there my in laws fought with me so my husband left me in my home after he didnt speak with me for about 1 week so i sent sms to my in law saying that " pls allow my husband to speak with me if not i will attempt suicide" my husband sent divorce notice on my 8th month pregnancy on cruelty.

Now i have a 6 month son, since i had undergone cesarean i could not appear on court the advocate we kept has been on my husband side this we came to know lately, he gave false hearing date saying that next hearing is on 03.02.16 but while i looked on the website the judgement is on 04.02.16 so immediately through another lawyer we filed for Restitution of Conjugal Rights.

The distance of court is about 11 hrs from my native.

I don't want divorce, my husband is under the control of in laws so pls help me for getting back my husband.

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Thanks for ur reply mam

SuperHero (Manager) 01 February 2016

Originally posted by : Sivaranjani
	I got married on 2014 and lived with my husband separately in abroad for about 6 months during that period my husband took well care of me, daily i will speak to my in laws during day time, to me they will speak like as they are the no.1 good in laws so i was attracted by their words, his working time is 12 hrs so i have to be all alone in a small room, daily after coming from work he will go to balcony and used to speak with his mom and 2 sisters more than 1 hr and then come back for dinner, till the moment he makes call he will behave good to me, he always used to share our photos in whats app to his sister the day he sent his photos at that night while my husband speaks to his mom( don't know what his mom and sisters will say) he will not speak to me well if i ask reason he will beat me badly and scold me in vulgar words due to pain i will go and lock the bathroom, even once i went out of the room he forcefully pinch and pulls me in, the next morning he behaves well and asks sorry for the last night behavior also applies ointment for the wound he created and this continues till 6 months. when we came to know about my pregnancy my in law didn't speak to me over phone well( my sister in law who got married before me didn't conceive) even my husband beat me like beast due to this blood shed on mouth on that day for not letting know my in law about pregnancy( i tried before my husband but my in law didn't attend ). Due to this i threatened suicide that my husband should not speak to their family, i didnt inform this to my parents since they will get hurt as i was 3 months pregnant we came to india there my in laws fought with me so my husband left me in my home after he didnt speak with me for about 1 week so i sent sms to my in law saying that " pls allow my husband to speak with me if not i will attempt suicide" my husband sent divorce notice on my 8th month pregnancy on cruelty. Now i have a 6 month son, since i had undergone cesarean i could not appear on court the advocate we kept has been on my husband side this we came to know lately, he gave false hearing date saying that next hearing is on 03.02.16 but while i looked on the website the judgement is on 04.02.16 so immediately through another lawyer we filed for Restitution of Conjugal Rights. The distance of court is about 11 hrs from my native. I don't want divorce, my husband is under the control of in laws so pls help me for getting back my husband.

You have made the following mistakes...

1. When he has hit you so badly. You should have called the Police or Cops and informed them about his behaviour also to your Parents..(You thought your Parents will be hurt..now looking at you everyday they will be more hurt.)

2. You should have contacted Local Indian Organizations and get involved with other people in the community, so that you would slowly got used to Life outside India.

3. Always Women shouldn't start emotional blackmailing by threatning I will commit suicide if you don't talk to me..That shows very childish and immature behaviour...

4. Also you can't force laws such that your Husband shouldn't talk to there Parents. This kind of statements will be deeply hurt and is a sensitive issue.

I strongly disagree on some points of Renuka Madam.

1. Is Beating a Wife Normal Behaviour???

2. Leaving a expecting mother and going away....rather running away....

Things have gone bad..It is too late to Patch Up...I guess...

Better get some Alimony and get Maintenance if needed.

Relationships cannot be Forced...

SuperHero (Manager) 02 February 2016

Originally posted by : Mrs. Renuka Chaudhury,
	Originally posted by : SuperHero Originally posted by : Sivaranjani I got married on 2014 and lived with my husband separately in abroad for about 6 months during that period my husband took well care of me, daily i will speak to my in laws during day time, to me they will speak like as they are the no.1 good in laws so i was attracted by their words, his working time is 12 hrs so i have to be all alone in a small room, daily after coming from work he will go to balcony and used to speak with his mom and 2 sisters more than 1 hr and then come back for dinner, till the moment he makes call he will behave good to me, he always used to share our photos in whats app to his sister the day he sent his photos at that night while my husband speaks to his mom( don't know what his mom and sisters will say) he will not speak to me well if i ask reason he will beat me badly and scold me in vulgar words due to pain i will go and lock the bathroom, even once i went out of the room he forcefully pinch and pulls me in, the next morning he behaves well and asks sorry for the last night behavior also applies ointment for the wound he created and this continues till 6 months. when we came to know about my pregnancy my in law didn't speak to me over phone well( my sister in law who got married before me didn't conceive) even my husband beat me like beast due to this blood shed on mouth on that day for not letting know my in law about pregnancy( i tried before my husband but my in law didn't attend ). Due to this i threatened suicide that my husband should not speak to their family, i didnt inform this to my parents since they will get hurt as i was 3 months pregnant we came to india there my in laws fought with me so my husband left me in my home after he didnt speak with me for about 1 week so i sent sms to my in law saying that " pls allow my husband to speak with me if not i will attempt suicide" my husband sent divorce notice on my 8th month pregnancy on cruelty. Now i have a 6 month son, since i had undergone cesarean i could not appear on court the advocate we kept has been on my husband side this we came to know lately, he gave false hearing date saying that next hearing is on 03.02.16 but while i looked on the website the judgement is on 04.02.16 so immediately through another lawyer we filed for Restitution of Conjugal Rights. The distance of court is about 11 hrs from my native. I don't want divorce, my husband is under the control of in laws so pls help me for getting back my husband. You have made the following mistakes... 1. When he has hit you so badly. You should have called the Police or Cops and informed them about his behaviour also to your Parents..(You thought your Parents will be hurt..now looking at you everyday they will be more hurt.) 2. You should have contacted Local Indian Organizations and get involved with other people in the community, so that you would slowly got used to Life outside India. 3. Always Women shouldn't start emotional blackmailing by threatning I will commit suicide if you don't talk to me..That shows very childish and immature behaviour... 4. Also you can't force laws such that your Husband shouldn't talk to there Parents. This kind of statements will be deeply hurt and is a sensitive issue. I strongly disagree on some points of Renuka Madam. 1. Is Beating a Wife Normal Behaviour??? 2. Leaving a expecting mother and going away....rather running away.... Things have gone bad..It is too late to Patch Up...I guess... Better get some Alimony and get Maintenance if needed. Relationships cannot be Forced... It takes two to clap, two to tango. If he beat or raise hand, definitely she also did something to instigate. This I tell by experinece. (pls go through my profile) These things are common in married life. But for thnigs like this thrreatening to commit suicide shows there is some other problem. With a girl who always threatens to commit suicide who will want to live and always have fear of going to jail if something happens to her. Who will take responsibiity. The only best left option for husband is to approach court for divorce citing her suicidal threats. This girl does not even know what a knid of grave mistake it is to take even the name of suicide. She for sure does not know the value of life, and it appears has not been taught by her parents the value of life. Perhaps it takes a superhero to live with such a wife, which only you could ? Isnt it?