i have been married for about 10 years to my husband during the course of which i have been through domestic violence, mental cruelty and adultery. Everytime i had to threaten to leave him to make him stop doing one or the other things.
However now I do not think it is possible for me to emotionally still be in this relationship. The previous adultery from him has left me broken. He is emotionally dependent and nrcissistic by nature. We have a 2 year old daughter and for her sake i thought divorce would be bad. but i now have a feeling that being amidst disjointed parents is a worse thing to do to your child.
I am not looking to separate him from his child - i do not mind a joint custody and i am not looking for any kind of compensation or maintenance. I just want separation from my husband. I have a feeling it will not be a mutually consented divorce - he may contest it for desertion (i plan to separate and apply for a pre-litigation mediation to somehow get him to agree to a consented divorce)...
Every time i threaten to leave him he starts working things out and becoming sane for a week or two then he becomes the same (he has not been adulterous since 8 months now and does not hit me anymore) but he is an extremely negative and overly possessive man who doesnt like it that i get along with his parents. I cannot live with him anymore as i do not have it within me to give him any more chances.
I do not want to wash dirty linen in public and be hurtful or insinuatng in any manner. I want this to be amicable but i do not think he is capable of an amicable settlement in this regard.
Please help.