Pavankumarcrow 15 March 2026

Disregard for threat to life in marital life during legal process.

My husband and his mother used to torture me to bring money from my father to clear their debt. My father has given 160 gms of gold and 15 lakhs cash in marriage. When he could not afford more, there were repeated attempts on mine & my son's life at my husband's house by my husband, his mother and his cousins, which I fought against and struggled and took pains to survive. I lived in constant fear for the life of my child and mine. I could take it no longer and I had to abandon my husband's house along with my 9 month old son after 5 years of married life. Even after that there were attempts on my father, me and my child. My father filed police complaint. The in-laws were warned but to no use. After 3 years of abandoning my husband's house, I filed 498A and DV case. My husband filed RCR case on me. The cases are on going. My problem: Irrespective of what I went through at my husband's house, and also continues to face after that, the courts do not seem to trust the threat to the life of mine and my child. As is enshrined in the law with good intentions, the courts want me to reconcile. But then what about the threat to my life? Why don't the courts take that into consideration at all? Would the courts believe in what I am telling only when me and my son stake and loose our lives? How do I get the courts to take into consideration the threat to our lives at my husband's house? Why are the courts playing with our lives? I am ready to lead life with my husband if he comes to visit me at a place where I feel safe, like my parents' house and not anywhere else, not even a third place, because that would not be safe for me and my son. But the husband mentions that his job and the old age of his parents do not permit him to visit me at my parents' house. His place of work is almost at the same distance from his house as my parent's house. He can easily afford to visit me & my son at least once a week during week ends. But he refuses. All he wants is take me to his house and get rid of me and my son, so that he can remarry and get fresh dowry to clear his rising debt.

Reply Follow

Quick Summary

A law student, representing a relative, seeks advice on how to convince courts of the genuine threat to her and her son's lives from her husband and in-laws. Despite enduring torture and attempts on their lives, the courts are pushing for reconciliation, which the client fears could be dangerous. She is willing to reconcile if her safety is guaranteed, but the husband refuses to visit her in a safe location. The discussion explores how to present evidence of threats when they occur within the home and how to ensure the court prioritises safety over mandatory reconciliation.

6 Replies

P. Venu (Advocate) 15 March 2026

Generally, in DV cases, the protection order is granted in the first hearing itself.

What are the Case Nos.?

Which Court(s)?

T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate (Advocate) 15 March 2026

You are blaming court for nothing, usually the courts arrange for mediation and reconciliation, if that is not possible then the case will revert to the regular court.There is no compulsion on you to accept or agree to the suggestions made by court in mediation.

You can very well insist on trial of the complaint given by you before police and be strong wth your evidence and ensure he and his parents are convicted and punished as per law.

Have faith in judiciary instead of getting frustrated over the developments that are not going as per your desire.

Dr. J C Vashista (Advocate ) 16 March 2026

@ Pavan Kumar Crow,

You have posted multiple subjective topics, questions and queries for a debate.

If you have already filed complaint against all and sundry against your husband and in-laws, you must have engaged some counsel to proceed, do you have faith in him/her ?

If you have lost faith in your lawyer it is better to replace him/her and show relevant records to some other local prudent lawyer for proper appreciation of facts, professional advise and necessary proceeding, if you feel aggrieved. There is hardly any point in venting out your anger by posting your issue(s) on this platform, where no proper analyses can be formed without going through the case file.

Prima facie this is a fabricated story and a time pass post, isn't it ? Otherwise, what is your locus standie to this post Mr. Pavan Kumar Crow ?

Pavankumarcrow 16 March 2026

Thank you for your replies sirs, @T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate, @P. Venu, @Dr. J C Vashista.

Sir, I am a final semister law student who is doing internship. I am speaking for my client. The cases are being handled by other advocates.

The client is my relative and I know her case personally. All the matters I have stated are genuine.

I am not blaming the courts and I trust the judiciary, that is why I have come to the court.

All I wanted to know is, how to convince the courts that the threat to mine & my son's life is genuine. The in-laws are powerful people and I cannot give any evidence to the attempts that were made on our life because they were made between the 4 walls of the house with no supportive witnesses.

The in-laws are taking advantage of the good intentions of the judicial process to make a mediation, to come near me and get access to my child, while their intentions are clear, i.e, to get rid of me and my child physically or through divorce and go for another victim who will bring fresh dowry to clear their rising debts.

I am ready to lead life with my husband if he comes to visit me while I am in a safe place.

In such a situation, what are the provisions in the law to convince the courts that there is threat to mine & my son's life if I go with my husband and if the husband comes to visit me while I am in a place where I feel safe, and wins my trust and affection, I would later go with him?

My seniors and other advocates do not have enough time to discuss these matters with me and could not guide me satisfactorily. So I have come to the forum.

Thank you.

Dr. J C Vashista (Advocate ) 17 March 2026

You will have to discuss the issue(s) with your senior(s).

SHIVKUMAR AGNIHOTRI, ADVOCATE, (Advocate ) 17 March 2026

1. The court first try to resolve the matrimonial dispute through mediation but this can not be forced upon you. You through your advocate insist that I can reconcile only if the court order protection to me and my child, there is a threat to life. The incident that happened with you and your child, you may have narrated in DV case and 498A case.

2. Anyway if you agree in mediation then don't withdraw the case you have already filed immediately. You say clearly that, I will withdraw the case only when I feel safe at in-laws home.