and "helping hand" mind urself bfr callin nybdyz parent "stupid dad" .
You mistook me dear. I mean, you or your dad or the people involved in the entire process upon knowing your mentality and the boy's mentality and inturn your parents and his parents mentality should have gauged how long would this marriage last, the moment you feel abused, feel harassed, feel tortured, and you wave the red flag and there appear your parents to take back thier daughter to their nest, and then invested money etc etc into this marriage. Marriage is like business, you invest, rather your parents invest thinking that the marriage will last, but the love and affection shown by them to their kid will ruin the deal called as marriage. Result?
Are marriage expenses recoverable?"
Answer is yes. But when those boys people come for settlement like one shot payment, include marriage expenditure multiplied by 2 and ask for settlement money, thats the only way to get back marriage expenditure back + istridhan etc etc.
But alsso tell one ting to the boy and his parents, when you have paid X amount of money, you have literally bot the boy and his family. Its almost like they become bonded laborers for you and your family. If they ask, please tell them why this marriage did not work. Reason??? When you sell yourself or when you ask for a job and when you are given a job and paid for it, you should not disobey the master. Never ever.
If u hv had a daughter or sister and u tk full responsibility of them thn u wud knw dt dts hw society works.
Yes. Sister there,. and she is happily married unlike you. And both hubby n wife are happi.
U cant deny wat ur daughters/sisters wud be inlaws wish for.
Kid. Understand one thing. It takes lot of perseverance, patience, sacrifice, love, affection to maintain marriage. Which you do not have, given that you have paid your husband X amount of money.
Even if you pay money, you will have to perform duites of wife as they are expected all over india. If not, just pack your bags and move out, which you decently did.
Thats how decent families work.
Yes. Decency is to be learnt from you. Jab tumhari aur tumhare gharwalon ki ghamand utregi, tab decent kon he yeh sochna bewakoof ladki.
Yes we got conned...conned well.
No. You thought each n everyting was a business deal, But you forgot basics of married life aka marriage. So you feel conned.
But my parents had gud intentions in their hearts. I appreciate ur help bt request u nt to pick on nybdyz parents.
Ok. Sory for that. Your dad was not stupid, wanted something good to happen to his dotter, but sadly the dotter blew away all her dad's dreams and money in particular which she is keen to get back.