Radhakrishnan (BPO) 15 March 2011

Advice required

I have two daughter ( first daughter 6 years old and second daughter 1 year 3 months) and 6 years crossed of my married life. My wife had withdrawn the dowry case against me on the last year. Now her main aim was to go for work by giving my two daughters to father-in-law at their home which is 190km away from our home.

we are living away from both of our parents, they should not interfere in our family life. this is not followed up by father-in-law, as he is daily giving some wrong ideas to my wife and creating a family disturbance. Now she is planning for go to her father home by april and may month. beacuase thats the school leave period and also planning to leave my children to their home and proceed for work

Kindly suggest me how to go up with this. I want my children to be with me, atleast my first daughter who is 6 years old. Is there any legal options for my first daughter to be with me. One more point here my wife parents are physically not capable and also staying in the rented home with low pension.

I dont want to send my daughter to them because of they will try to spoil her in all the aspects like food, culture etc...

Even I plan for to hire the servants and allow my wife to go for work. But i cant able to do it because of its of too much charges demanded by the servant .

Looking for your valuable suggestions..........

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snow (xxxxxxxx) 15 March 2011

First of all why do u think that ur wife will leave u and go to her parents just to work. Did she tell u so.

Discuss with ur wife y is she willing to work is it because she wants some financial independence or she wants to help her parents(as u told they are old and living on a very low pension).

As far as my knowledge permits me I don’t thin any lady will leave her husband just to work for her pleasure,there could be a strong reason behind it. Probably she feel that evn if she work u can raise the kids better compared to now.

Make her understand that u love her n kids and u can take care of her and the kids.

CA VK Dwivedi (Job) 15 March 2011

Dear RadhaKrishnan,

Below is the verdict from Delhi high Court on parents interference in the married life of daughter:

Parental intrusion ruining couples' marital life: Delhi high court

PTI,Feb 19, 2011, 07.50pm IST

NEW DELHI: The interference of parents in the married life of their daughters has become a major cause for playing havoc with the lives of young couples post marriage, the Delhi high court has said.

Expressing concern over rift between couples due to parents' persistent interference in their daughter's married life, Justice Kailash Gambhir upheld a lower court's decree of divorce to a man on the ground of his in-laws' frequent interference in his marital life.

Justice Gambhir said parents should draw a line to let their daughters lead happy married lives.

"All parents guide, teach and discipline their daughters and are concerned about their welfare after marriage but it is imperative for parents to draw a line as the prime concern should be that their daughter is happily settled in a new atmosphere at the husband's place," he said.

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But, it should not mean day-to-day monitoring of the affairs taking place at the matrimonial home of the daughter, he said.

Parents should not become uninvited judges of problems of their daughter, become an obstacle in the daughter's married life, plant thoughts in her mind and gain control over her and promote disharmony in her family life, the judge said.

"They are expected to advise, support and believe in their upbringing maintaining a discreet silence about the affairs of the matrimonial relationship," the court said.

"The present case is an unfortunate example where the parents of the appellant, instead of putting out the fire have fuelled and fanned it," the court said, dismissing an appeal filed by the wife challenging the lower court's order granting the man decree of divorce.

According to the husband, the difference with his wife started a few months after their marriage in 1990 due to frequent interference of his in-laws.

He alleged that he was even hit publicly by his father-in law two years after his marriage.

Seeking decree of divorce, he had approached the court, which allowed his plea on the grounds of cruelty by his wife due to continuous interference by his in-laws.

Source: Times of India

https://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2011-02-19/india/28625607_1_marital-life-daughters-interference

Hope this verdict will help you the intereference of you in laws in your married life.

VK Dwivedi

Pashpati (ASI) 16 March 2011

Sir, I am in paramilitary getting salary about 20,000/- and my wife is teacher-cum-warden in Kasturba Gandhi Balika vidyalaya, Hajipur, Bihar under central Govt education scheme and getting 6000 per month. I am living seprate for 4 yrs and fighting case from 2 yrs. She tried to kill me so, I filed two cases of divorce on ground of characterless and adultery and also guardianship case. She has file 498A and maintenance. I have two son of age 5 and 8 years and she has not permission to keep male children with her in school. So both are in hostel and her custody. Both are in cheap private hostel where they are not getting proper food and education. Whereas I have facility of quarter and better Central School for their education. She is using both son for blackmailing me. These days she is living with some other male who is 30 yrs elder to her. My questions are: 1. Is she authorised to get maintenance if Yes than how much? 2. Is it possible to get my both sons for their better education and future whereas both are in cheap hostel? 3. Is it possible to order to be seprated where as it is very difficult for me to prove her as adulterer because I do service in Kashmir and living seprate for last 4 yrs?

sachin (tendering officer) 16 March 2011

Sir, My sister was file case against her husband for the domestic vilance and special maintainance. her husband was paying maintanance Rs. 2100 for my sister and her daugher. i like to know that the property where her husband is staying is name of his mother which is build by her husband and his father and mother is there any right that my sister getting share of that bcause her daughter is 6 yrs old and her future should be safe. also her husband is dating with other women can we stop this any how please advice me urgently. in one case court desicion is against her husband that above part of his house should be give to my sister. please tell me what will be the next procedure to take passesiion of thet house